The Box - Returned

I know I would read it! The answer is toss it! Hunter

LOTS of recycled paper becomes toilet paper. Recycling is better than trashing it.

Whether his words are warm and fuzzy or cold and cruel, it does not matter. His words are from a narc and therefore empty, truly meaningless, and manipulative. Throw the letter away unread. Don't waste your time sending it back as he may find that fulfilling.

it would be damn near impossible for me to resist reading it if I kept it around chunk it or give it to your sister and have her read it and tell you if it contains any information you need to know

I'd say chuck it unread. All it will do is upset and trigger you. I think we both know that whatever the narc wrote inside is NOT designed to give you a warm fuzzy feeling that makes you happy. It's all about him. Read it and you could end up having an evening being upset or angry. Ignore it while maintaining NC, and your day will continue just like before you found the envelop. It's just one more piece of junk mail in the trash. Whatever he has to say, no longer matters. The relationship is over, and there is nothing productive to be gained by picking the scabs on the same wounds you are now trying to heal. Sorry about the disgusting analogy. That's how I think about healing. I always remember my mother telling me as a child, "If you keep picking at it, it won't heal. You'll get an infection." lol. :) Therefore, my advice is to toss the letter into the trash unread, and continue the process of healing from your wounds. Whatever is in there is NOT a salve for your pain. Big hugs!

CHUCK IT! Light it up and flush it down the toilet.

Get rid. Any further texts or correspondence I get I will be deleting before I read. I know this is easier said than done - but YOU need to take the power back. Imagine a scenario two years down the line and he bumps into you out and about - asks what you thought of what he wrote - you can just shrug your shoulders and go "Oh yeah - never got chance to read that". I'm a firm believer in NC. Totally. Bollocks to him xxx

I know me and curiosity would be killing me. Im probably not the best at this since NC has been off and on for me. I will say however each time I stick with NC I get stronger and feel much better. So go with the new boyfriend. But seriously, I wouldn't open it right now but I would keep it. Maybe set a date 6 months in the future when you will be stronger and whatever is said will not impact you the way it would right now.