Sharing a bit of insanity

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#1 Jun 14 - 1PM
helldweller
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Sharing a bit of insanity

Just wanted to share with you a classic encounter with my Borderline ex-husband.

So we were married for ten years and, during that time (aside from losing his job, going to prison for arson and other delights) he had five cars booted for parking tickets (two of them were towed away, the other three we ended up paying over a thousand dollars each to get them out of the boot). He feels he shouldn't have to pay to park his car.

We still own a business together and, every hour of every day he berates me for things like going to the grocery store or buying shoes for our duaghters, as we don't have much money for them.

So this morning I get an account alert from my bank informing me that $930 dollars has just been debited from the business account by the City of Chicago. Yep. Another boot.

So I don't hear from him all day, and when it's time for him to pick up our daughters at school, he comes and ring my bell and YELLS AT ME because--get this--I insisted on living in the citywhen we got married thirteen years ago, and if we had moved to the suburbs like he wanted to, he wouldn't have had his car booted.

Keeping in mind that all he had to do was put two or three quarters in the parking meter when he parked, but didn't, because he felt he didn't have to, even though HE'D HAD FIVE CARS BOOTED AND TOWED AWAY BEFORE.

This is, if I recall, the definition of insanity. And a textbook incident of borderline personality disorder.

Jun 14 - 9PM
NeverAgain115
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Unbelievable!!!

Sweet girl - I am so sorry you are experiencing this! Please figure a way to seperate the business account - your daughters are the most important thing and as a Mom to 3 kiddos myself, I know that shoes for all 3 at Payless is around $50 - he should shove those tickets up his ass! I have re-occuring thoughts of my narc being taken out by our bad Atlanta traffic - so tragic I imagine - get the heck away from this f*ck up!!!!
Jun 14 - 6PM
Littleone
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I simply have to add a piece

I simply have to add a piece of my insanity to this mix, it's too funny. My EXN was using my car for a few months while I was pregnant and he went through the SAME intersection no fewer than FIVE times and got done for speeding. Wait, it gets worse, he then borrowed my parents car for a few months and got done in the exact same intersection another 6 times!!!!!! Of course we have notified the police that he was the driver and he has to pay the fines. Plus he is due to lose his license in about a month because of this. (he doesn't know that I know this info and is going to great lengths to keep me in the dark). It's all rather hilarious to watch him crash and burn!
Jun 14 - 4PM
Sparrow
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He's an ass. Plain and

He's an ass. Plain and simple.........on top of being a narc, he is a big fat asshole. No one in their right mind, besides someone who BELIEVES he is above the law would continue to have their car booted. And if you believe you are above the law, you are surely a narc. It's a shame that you have to continue to have contact with him. I am sorry that you have to deal with him on a daily basis. I don't know what I would do if that were my case. Stay strong!
Jun 14 - 6PM (Reply to #5)
Smitten Kitten (not verified)
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BPD & NPD are the same IMO

I agree. His belief that he is above the law is his sense of entitlement. His blaming the car getting booted on Helldweller for living in the city instead of the suburbs is typical blaming behavior and not taking responsibility for his actions. Both are traits of a Narc. Honestly, I did a bunch of research on BPD a few years ago because of my mother, and in doing that I also came across the NPD stuff, mainly through Sam Vaknin's site. And I kept saying to myself, I really don't see a difference. Usually when someone points out the difference, it's only a couple of characteristics and so minor it's ridiculous. They are all just disordered psychopaths to me at this point.
Jun 14 - 3PM
LilithErisRose
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;)

I just want to stand in front of your guy and ask him why he feels justified in buying thousands of dollars worth of boot for the automobiles when he has a hard time reconciling the expense of buying shoes for his daughter.
Jun 14 - 3PM
Done sourcing
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We are crazy to stay

the narc acts normal for a narc, which means crazy. We scratch our heads. They keep doing these and many other "odd" things. We stay. We find that thinking about their behavior is taking over our thoughts, then our lives. At some point we are crazy. Once we really know this, we have the power to choose! Glad to hear he is your "X". Chris
Jun 14 - 1PM
girlsinger
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insanity

Hi definition of insanity: "Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result" be blessed K