I have gone back several times since we broke up and each time as described by someone else, I have had a "moral hangover," there is no better description for how I felt. I lied to myself that it would make things better, that things weren't the way that they were, that he really loved me, I became a liar myself, I was down at his level, I lied to my friends about having contact with him, much less having sex with him. It is a ploy for him to feel better for an instant because that is all that they can think about, the here and now.
Nooo! Don't hurt yourself like that.
Take it from me - I went back to my exN once and we talked for hours. I told him how I felt about a loving relationship, we were a great couple and had so much in common, and how we just needed to talk more about our feelings and support each others individuality, be open and honest, blah, blah blah.....
Sex that night was awesome - I cried with happiness! Make up sex (w/ hope of reconciliation) IS exciting - but very empty. Three weeks of him passive aggressively punishing me and pushing me away and lying to me hurt soooo deeply and I felt sooo used. I did it to myself. He devalued me even more after that and if there was any doubt of his high level of narcissism - it was gone. DONT DO THAT TO YOURSELF!!!
Stay strong!
tell yourself this everytime you hear from him. i would no longer reply to this man. nor would i allow him to come over. he wants sex, because a) he wants sex and b) he wants to keep the door open with you.
when our legs our open, our hearts somehow open, too. ;) So...stay strong, and work on keeping this man out of your bed and life. Prayers for you.
I think in these cases you are forced to break up with them. Why would they ever stop trying if they know they can just have a booty call. They will always think they'll try it ONE more time. You have to stop it. Also that way they get the added pleasure of blaming it all on you!
is the screwing he's gonna give you worth the screwing your gonna give yourself afterwards... think the act through, don't just think how good the sex will be, remember that you will still be you after the glow and warm fuzzies are gone with him going out the front door. Then how do you feel? My guess is you will feel empty and used and that you wasted your energy on a blood sucking empty parasite looking to suck one more soul into their vortex of darkness and devastation.
A booty call is a booty call...sleeping with someone who we have all these issues with is much more than a simple fuck, so be honest about how you will feel after, not just the act itself.
Will sleeping with him help you be happy, joyous, and free?
Or will you experience self-loathing and strong regret?
He isn't there to help you. He is only self interested. He doesn't care about your security, safety, or future.
Chris
acctually yes, that's exectly how i felt afterwords..just like used and thrown away and then he leaves..and then i blame myself for it..hope he wont come around anymore..so it wont be anymore sleeping, he was soo happy to leave this marriage with me so i am glad he is happy somewhere else, even though its bugs me that he us already moved on..or that's what i think..(there goes my insecurity again)
The Question is, How are you
I did it and it was a huge mistake
sleep with him?
Actually, lots of people do
Because he is using you and
thats what i feel, like he is
this ^^^
I think in these cases you
is the screwing he's gonna
acctually yes, that's exectly
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