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#1 Sep 18 - 6PM
grossot
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more emails

Barbara, you've already seen most of these but I feel like sharing. Let me expain by saying I made an honest mistake and forgot to send my daughter's antibiotic to school(she didn't need them until that evening) Then that evening N picked her up and proceeded to bother me to death with the following emails when he knew I was in a meeting. Translations and comments welcome:

N:
Need (daughter's) med

Me:
Yesterday am was the last she had any. She's not having a fever anymore. But if you really want it you'll have to call mom. I'm in a mtg.

N:
She is supposed to have for eight days' u were unavailable when (daughter) needed her med, and ur back up person can't meet me half way, u failed

Me:
I didn't know anything about 8 days. Sorry

N:
And then ur mom can't meet but in the (city). of course when ur laid off ur schedule is packed, it is on the bottle how long to take it

(I do not respond)
N:
Here is an idea, u raise (daughter) and not rely on ur mom, to do everything for u

(I do not respond)

N:
When is the last time u washef ur (daughter's comfort item)

Me:
Fri

N:
So she has been a (comfort item) that she has had a fever with, coughed on, for three days, mmm

(I do not respond)

Then when I got home I got another email that I can't post because it's a picture of the medicine bottle with the script on it and a message that read something like, "you missed 3 doses, I thought you said she needed her mom when she was sick"

I have purposely copied and pasted the emails exactly as I received them (minus () of course for confidentiality) to show his mistakes....mixing up words, missplelling. Was he drunk?

I truely did not forget the meds on purpose. I was administering the meds according to what N had written on a piece of paper not according to the bottle and the paper did not say 8 days!

Do you think this is harassment? I have had an exparte order for a while. And I forewarded everything to my lawyer.

Sep 19 - 1PM
grossot
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barbara

By triggering do you mean recalling past events? Can you please explain triggering? I must have missed this somewhere along the way! Thank you! ~Give a Narc an inch and they become the ruler~ nolongercontrolled
Sep 19 - 2PM (Reply to #7)
Barbara (not verified)
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understanding triggers

http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/2006/07/understanding-triggers-triggers-are.html ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Sep 18 - 6PM
grossot
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The worst part is my mom did

The worst part is my mom did meet him with the medicine and daughter would not look at or talk to her grandma until N gave her permission. :( ~Give a Narc an inch and they become the ruler~ nolongercontrolled
Sep 18 - 7PM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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grossot

this is EXTREMELY verbally abusive as well as attempting to be Psychologically abusive. Send them ALL - including what he did with your Mom to your lawyer. That is abusive to you, her and it's also parental alienation. You tried to keep it to Business Only yet he took an opportunity to ABUSE you and ABUSE child. What are the parameters of your ex parte order? Definitely show this to your lawyer. This man really shouldn't be allowed to see your daughter without supervision and parenting classes. The very fact you feel the need to explain yourself to us - shows me its also very triggering for you. He's a ridiculous excuse for a human being. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Sep 20 - 7AM (Reply to #4)
grossot
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ex parte

The perameters of my ex parte include: Restaining him from directly or indirectly harassing, annoying, interferring with, harassing by telephone, assaulting, or doing bodily harm to me at residence or elsewhere. Protecting our property (my jewelery stand was broken when my parents recently got it from the home) Protecting automomiles Protecting beneficiaries and insurance Protecting deposited funds 'Restraining him from contracting upon my credit' (He's behind on the mortgage) Then it says 'no bond be required of her' (what does that mean?) ~Give a Narc an inch and they become the ruler~ nolongercontrolled
Sep 20 - 3PM (Reply to #5)
Barbara (not verified)
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no bond

no bond means they didn't require you to pay the court to make or keep that order. he's violated the first part with his "you fail" comments and should be called on it by your attorney IMMEDIATELY. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Sep 18 - 7PM (Reply to #3)
GhostBuster
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So sickening

He's such an abusive controller, grossout. No doubt about it. Sorry he did this to you. Take whatever legal means you have and get that a-hole. You don't need this (and neither does your daughter). And do something nice for yourself to restore peace and calm. I know...easier said than done.