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#1 Sep 16 - 6AM
tasha
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I just list my ex Narc on liarscheatsandbastards.com complete with piture-now I'm frightened it's going to come back and bite me on the ass. I want to warn women-I don't want them to go through what I have been through-tell me I did the right thing!!

Sep 16 - 5PM
Barbara (not verified)
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telling is the RIGHT THING TO DO!

Who CARES if other women don't believe her!! SHE DID THE RIGHT THING!!! http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/09/04/top-ten-reasons-expose-your-ex When it came to the women seeking out his previous relationships to check out his stories, lies, or behaviors, two and a half times more women did not talk to others, including previous female partners about his behavior than those who did. “He always told me she cheated on him, was crazy and a liar. He said no one could believe anything out of her mouth. So I never thought I’d get the truth. I see now he did that so I wouldn’t approach her.” About 25% of the women were able to contact other women who had been with the psychopath. In all but two cases the other women had similar stories to tell about his behavior. In the cases where other women refused to tell her about the psychopath, children were involved and he was the biologic father. Many of those who did not try to check out his stories, said they should have, and wish they had, as the information they would have gotten may have helped them to make a better choice. There were some women in the survey who were told in great detail about his violent and parasitic behavior. The psychopath had his own convincing explanation about every disturbing description of him. Unfortunately, women don’t believe other women when they tell about abuse from the male partner. A lesson learned is that the other woman may have something to say worth hearing and considering. “How I wish I would have at least tried to contact others. I might not be in the shape I am today trying to recover from what I’ve been through. If anyone ever contacts me, I’ll definitely tell her the truth!” “I thought she was biased! She was and rightfully so. I needed to hear what she had to say…I wish I had.” Sandra Brown, MA - WOMEN WHO LOVE PSYCHOPATHS ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Sep 16 - 6PM (Reply to #5)
tasha
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yes..true

To gain my sympathy my ex Narc bf told me that the mother of his kids was a bitch and wouldn't let him have contact with his kids. He told me that his ex wife was violent-which I think was reactive to his abuse. The women he was in a relationship before me was manipulative and cheated on him. The gf after me cheated on him also!!apparently.So there are 4 women that he has hurt and manipulated and hurt 5 inluding me. He was always the perptual victim-and still plays it now.Apparently I'm crazy and abusive. I have to ask if there was a paedophile hunting children in you area-would you like to know?I would!I don't see this man as being any different-he's pathological!and will keep causing harm to women.This was NOT an act of revenge-people need to know I dont want anyone getting F*CKED OVER by this guy again if possible. I don't want anyone else to suffer what I have. I wish I knew about Narcissists and pathogicals before I had to go through all this pain.
Sep 16 - 9PM (Reply to #6)
Barbara (not verified)
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narcs LOVE to play martyr

Narcissists almost make a career out of being victims. Ask any narcissist to tell you his story and you are bound to hear about the evil ex-wife, the ungrateful children, the idiotic and exploitative bosses, the crooked partner and every person who has been out to get them throughout their lives - which just about includes everyone they have ever encountered. Get involved with them and you will be the next addition to the list. Then they get magnanimous and let you know how forgiving they are of all these people. Please realise that the so called forgiveness of a narcissist is a joke. Somewhere they have read or heard that forgiveness is a nice human quality and that it makes you look like a nice, rational person who actually gives a hoot about others. They go to great lengths to understand the human species and win favour with the bulk of it, so they actually know about things like love and caring and kindness. They simply have no clue what it means, which doesn't really matter anyway. All that counts to them is the results they can get if they know how to effectively use these things. They know that, "I love you" turns on your wishful thinking, forgiving nature or your guilt and gets them back in the door. The know that "I'm sorry" gets them forgiven and gives them license to do it all again. They know that "I'll change" buys them time to work on you some more. They know that their numerous excuses take the focus off them and get them off the hook. When we simply accept these things and even protect abusers from the consequences of their actions, we are not only giving them permission to continue, but to escalate to even greater levels of abusive power and control. If an abuser is going to change, it will be because he is forced to. For as long as he can keep getting away with his behaviours and keep you coming back for more, there will be no incentive to change. For as long as he can make you feel sorry for him, he has you where he wants you. We all, to some extent or another, have a need to be needed. We all, to some or other extent have an inner "hero". It is this that the martyr-abuser plays to. He wants us to not only feel sorry for him, but to believe that we can make it better. If he can play on this and nurture it, he is assured of a never-ending supply from us because when he doesn't "get better" we take it as our own personal failure rather than his responsibility. For as long as I am the "rescuer" in someone else's life, I am responsible and accountable for them. It is just a different form of playing god and it is unfair on both myself and them to do that. They can never grow as people, or change, or improve for as long as I am shielding them from responsibility. If I truly love either them or myself; if I have any respect at all for either of us, I have to stop this game in its tracks. http://www.cosmicwalk.co.za ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. B
Sep 16 - 4PM
Carolyn
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Other women might not

Other women might not believe you. Narcissists are very convincing and of course they can always say you are crazy. You have done it and gotten some satisfaction out of it and so you might take it down. If he calls say you never heard of that site and deny it all. Provoking a nut is never totally without risk but it does give some satisfaction. Women look for justice in these awful relationships and get it eventually as these guys hit the floor and have everything go wrong in the end. Have some patience it will come to your ex-nut like it does to all of the others.
Sep 16 - 6AM
Barbara (not verified)
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YOU DID THE RIGHT

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! http://thestumblingblock.wordpress.com (despite death threats - I WILL NOT TAKE IT DOWN!) ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Sep 17 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
dolce (not verified)
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I did not believe his ex

I did not believe his ex and she was right about everything! When he D&Ded me, I told him she was right. That I should have listened. He put on that famous smirk and said "maybe you two should compare notes." (as if I would give him even more attention!)..but he would have loved that.