Cock!!

I'm certainly no expert and just learning about all this stuff, but in my experience, you can't satisfy them no matter what you do. In one moment, the sweet, loving woman would be the ideal for him, but then we're too close, he gets panicky and angry for no apparent reason, and creates a ridiculous scenario out of thin air that brings out the "bitch" in me and the fight is on. He says he doesn't like the fighting, but then why does he say and do the most outrageous things to create it? I mean, I can remember him turning mean and cold at moments when I was being especially loving and expressing that to him, and he would pull away. That would fit into the not liking sweet, loving women part, but at other times he ate that up and used that as a barometer for what he wanted in a relationship. But then again, I could be fighting with him, threaten to leave, actually leave, and then the chase was on. So this seems more about them wanting their supply when the availability is threatened. Looking back, it DID always seem (except in the beginning Honeymoon period and after the d & d's started) he would get angry just when I was feeling closest to him and expressing my love for him. On the other hand, he resented not having love expressed to him and feeling like he was the most important thing in your life. This gets back to the bottomless pit of need you can never feed and no matter which way you go, you can't win. Ultimately, I feel like my standing up to him which could be interpreted as dominating in their case, only worked in the short-term when he wanted his supply back. I know he fought with his soon-to-be ex-wife all the time and he started comparing me to her. In the end, his emphasis was on how much we fought, how we didn't work, and how much I was like his ex-wife. And now the new love of his life, he compares to the victim before me, the previous love of his life, and talks about how similar they are. And at this point, the new GF is sweet and loving like the previous (3 months) GF, and I'm the bitch like the ex-wife. But if the previous GF was so great, why did he start pursuing me?