Why?

To be so caring and giving is a wonderful thing....it is not your fault. It is just unfortunate that you were targeted. Now you are wiser and can protect the beautiful woman that you are better. Strength and peace to you! ~KG

Caring women because no one else would put up with their crap. The woman wouldn't put up with all their crap and they wouldn't put up with someone that didn't put up with them. You're a caring person. Don't beat yourself up over it. We just got unlucky.

You are so much better off without this man. You're right that Narcissists choose women who are highly successful and caring. They rely on us to meet their child-like needs. They are not going to choose a weak woman who has no compassion and can't provide for them. You were chosen for a reason. You are an Empath. Empaths are incredible listeners, naturally giving and always there for people they care about. Narcissists notice this immediately because they purposefully seek a partner who is compassionate and in tune with their never-ending needs. An Empath absorbs the emotions of others and will easily fall prey to a Narcissist, who uses others as an emotional sponge. Empaths are very sensitive to suffering in the world and are often idealists who want to fix the world’s problems. Empaths have an incredible capacity for self-sacrifice and are often found volunteering or dedicating time to help others. People naturally feel comfortable sharing their feelings with an Empath because of their incredible ability to feel compassion and connect with others. Whereas a Narcissist does not connect well with others, an Empath connects too much. When Empaths are around peace and love, they flourish. However, when surrounded by an emotional vampire, like the Narcissist, an Empath is ravaged. An Empath absorbs the negativity, fear and rage of a Narcissist. So much so that they take on these problems as their own and try to fix things for their partner. This is precisely what a Narcissist is looking for in a partner and exactly why they seek out relationships with Empaths. They chose us for a reason. They chose us because we are strong, successful, intelligent and driven. They need someone to take care of them and certainly are not going to choose someone who can't provide for them. They know they can take a lot from us and gain significantly by being in a relationship with us. They want to be taken care of and choose strong people to partner with for a reason. Overall, I believe being an Empath is truly a gift, but we must be careful not to allow others to take advantage of us.