Did your narc repeat behaviour?

first N bought me stuff from money he won gambling......and many times he STOLE money from me, frauded my bank account in order to get gambling money.....so essentially, I paid for my own gifts lol second N - wasn't cheap. But the nice gifts I received from hin ie) paying for camping trips.....I heard about it over and over how nice it was of him to do that. The other gifts were just impersonal. A DVD player cuz mine sucked apparantly and my personal favourite....a cheese grator. My cheese grator had rust I guess, so he was kind enough to buy me a new one.

Sounds like a cheapo to me. lol I laughed out loud reading this...because I dated my first narc in college. For my birthday...he bought me 8 turtleneck sweaters...in different colors. EIGHT. LOL!!! What an asshole. haha I was opening each box...and there would be one in blue...next box--red. Next box--yellow. Anyways...that's funny though!

Not with the EX N but I had a boyfriend with some N characteristics 20 years ago. He always gave me stuffed animals for Valentine's Day and at first i was shocked by it! I was already mid-thirties! I wanted diamonds and pearls not toys!!! But then I fell in love and decided it was sweet - but yes I do think they do the same thing with different women and forget that it is a new decade! he was almost 40 at the time he was buying me stuffed bears.

You would THINK that after finding himself neck deep in my wrath he would look in another neighborhood for women. You'd think he would have learned his lesson about dating neighbors or moms at his kid's school. Nope. Found out two days ago that he is screwing one of his kid's friend's mom, right around the corner. Before me, there was Maureen, who lived three blocks away, who he met at the neighborhood fest a few years back. There was also Mary, who lived one block away, who just happened to walk by his house one day and he hit on her. There's another one a couple of blocks in the other direction that I think he's still seeing as well. I don't think they ever learn. I'm waiting for him to piss off one of his new school screw moms so I can watch the show. The moms at our school are really high strung for the most part, very self aware and not doormats. The one I know he is seeing is a six-foot tall, passionate Puerto Rican woman. Can't WAIT til he pisses HER off.

perpetual adolescents. YUCK!!! It almost makes you feel sorry for them but...NOT!!!! GOOD RIDDANCE!!!! Stuffed toys???? Whatever!!!! Big hug to you today! sincerely (slowing down again from) spinning

I really must say I felt lucky. I had a mission and the mission was to find out the truth about this man that lied to me. I actually asked God to give me this one thing, just please let me find out who he really is. My prayers were answered. I did a detailed and very , very big federal background check on him 1st which revealed much about his living history, finances, loans and peronal bank accounts. Yes, I got to see how he spent his money right when he dissapeared. Then the OW contacted me. Through her I learned of all these stories. He would change up his personality and issues according to each OW. So with this particular OW he was 'depressed and had been suicidal' this allowed him to reep lots of sympathy attention/supply from the OW and she gave into his every sexual whim, degrading herself at times and traveled to him when he called. He repeated the same behavior with her as he did with me when she found out he was married. OW contacts wife, then the info really became detailed. I learned so much about him!! I felt like an FBI agent for a bit! I began to see him CLEARLY for the man he really is. They mimic what the women wants, asks all those detailed questions, becomes what he knows she will be attracted to - he will lie to all of us- such as he never mentioned any kind of depression or suicide with me. Know why? because it would of not worked on me. He is a sly dog, but always a dog.

To them we are more like objects rather than women...objects get the same treatment all the time..i.e deodarant is for under your arm always..pencil is for wrighting..a hat is for wearing....a fan is for cooling..all objects is treated the same.. no mater what flavor deodarant its still used for under your arms..in the case of the narcissist no matter what woman it is they all get the same treatment..a sick way of fairness..because we are all whores and objects..to them.. Mine acted the same with me with all 6 of his gfs after me in a 6 month period..they all left after a month like me..mine at least stretched to a month and a half..nothing change it just will get worst..