End the "R" word.

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#1 Apr 3 - 6PM
Veronrose
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End the "R" word.

I'm sorry but I hate the "R" word being used to describe narcissistic people. It's an insult to those with mental retardation and their families who have to deal with one they love that have mental retardation.
Narcissists are NOT mentally retarded.
http://www.r-word.org/
Thanks for considering that.
xo V

Apr 4 - 12AM
michele115 (not verified)
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imstrong

You may very well have a point there...and this incident is a perfect example of how this whole typing and communicting can be very much misunderstood. For that I stand corrected and acknowledge I did misunderstand and I thank you for clarifying this... BUT...it was a guy running a red light...not a robber:P *just busting chops* Hugs
Apr 3 - 11PM
ifinallygotit
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ok I will also try to stop thinking this way

about him as well as stop calling him that. It is also not true, they are just grossly immature and under developed...I think we use it out of sheer frustration. My ex N drove me crazy with the emotional ups and downs and games. I tried to love him and just say he was emotionally arrested due to his work, but now I think it goes back to early childhood. His "bros" all have normal marriages...
Apr 4 - 12AM (Reply to #10)
Arwen
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not meant how you saw it

I am someone who used the word retarded recently, and it is because I do think that my narc does actually suffer from a form of retardation, for real. I am fully aware of what retardation is and my observation is that he was born with some form of it. Totally and completely serious about this.
Apr 3 - 11PM
ImStrong
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Just curious isnt the r word

Just curious isnt the r word a lack of understanding and comprehension.i ask because ive seen michelle using this word a lot..i thought she used it in another format..but I agree it should never be used to describe a narcissist

"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess

Apr 3 - 11PM (Reply to #6)
michele115 (not verified)
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Imstrong

You saw Michele use it twice and when Vernonrose corrected me I apologized. The first time I used the "r" word to describe a visual of the narc. The second time I used it to respond to vernon roses correction and explain how there was no other word I could use to describe the visual. Being conscientious to the sensitivity, I did some research on my own, ate a big serving of crow...and apologized for offending vernon rose. Twice in my personal opinion is not ALOT and you may have also noted the aforementioned details as well as that particular incident was in the same post. Moreover, if this was a hypothetical situation and you ran a red light and the car before you did also, it isn't a great argument to say "But officer, the guy in front of me did it" the point is, he's addressing you. While Vernonrose is not an officer...sometimes we're just asked to stop something because it's offensive. Why bring a third party into it? You either agree or you don't and that's the end of it...why the need to compare?
Apr 4 - 12AM (Reply to #8)
ImStrong
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Michelle its not an attack on

Michelle its not an attack on you..its a misunderstansding by you..not the least would I use you as a third party and that example does not fit our conversation...situation..or realization..so the cop and the robber theme doesnt apply.. Unless you feel targeted which is untrue..we use your name many times..threads are created based on you..are you a third party then? In all reality your job as a moderator is to be a third party..Lisa E Scott is first.. I feel the cop and robber example is definintly a low blow and very false... Honestly the cop was addressing you michelle..your the one using the word retarded for a person who is not..so in this situation your own example is created for you.. One more thing if I choose to be indiscisive I will..without modertering..i dont need someone to tell me to choose anything..i have a fully developed brain that is in the adult stages..so your question of choice is also not needed

"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess

Apr 4 - 12AM (Reply to #7)
ImStrong
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Your not getting it ..i

Your not getting it ..i thought your research that you do consistantly allowed you to use the r word freely..i thought you found info on the word that no one else had..you reasearch sometimes goes back to the 1800's sometimes..so when you used the r word ..i guessed you had valid reasons to do so..now I understand it was used wrongly to describe a narc..thankyou for clearifying that Hugsxx

"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess

Apr 3 - 6PM
onwithmylife
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Like my

therapist once said when i called the narc emotionally retarded, he said NO, emotionally underdeveloped, immature and he is right and so are you!
Apr 3 - 7PM (Reply to #4)
Veronrose
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onwithmylife, thank

onwithmylife, thank you. ((hugs)) V
Apr 3 - 6PM
Susan32
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I prefer...

Stupid. Immature. Tantrum-throwing. Like a toddler. There ARE alternatives. Know them. Use them. Love them.
Apr 3 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
Veronrose
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*Thumbs up* girl!!! Thanks!

*Thumbs up* girl!!! Thanks!