Violence/stalking etc

My exn does cyberstalk me, but even more obvious with the stalking is the OW that came right after me. It's crazy. I have them both blocked everywhere, but that doesn't stop them. I have no idea if they are still having their affair (nor do i care), but this OW shows up on practically every website I join. In fact I recently received a notification on my Linkedin profile that she views my page. I messaged her to stop and move on. She has even impersonated me on 2 websites and I believe is behind some nasty postings about me. Evil.

Depends on the Narcand his need for supply! I get thie silent treatment, however inthe past I was stalked, and rumors spread! Be prepared for anything! They are masters and know exactly when to strike, or push buttons! Idealk

My N e-mailed me at an address I hadn't given him! I don't know how he found it, or why he had it. It wasn't listed on any social networking sites. I had an alternate address for those, and was used to him writing to me there, but not this particular one! It shocked me, I still don't know how he came upon it. He also made reference to a really old LJ that I had. It wasn't one that I'd even written in, for years. Not to mention, we didn't know each other when I had that LJ account. Cyberstalking is creepy. I think he liked to shock me. To make me feel watched. Whatever, watch me now! Ha. Have at it, for all I care anymore.

There is no way to tell for certain if this will escalate into some of the scenarios you've read about. What does seem to be reported very often is this "hoovering" which you also acknowledge already having been a victim of. That bein said, you have the tactical advantage of putting a plan in place. The best defense is offense...so there are some things you can do to minimize the odds. They are: NC which includes all forms of communication. Letters via mail are returned: Return to Sender Emails blocked, facebook blocked, no contact in any way shape or form. Friends are put on notice in advance, you don't want to to hear about the narc and should he contact friends or family they are not to give out information. If he shows up in person you either pretend you're not home or yell through the door to go away. If he insists you call the police. You don't give in, you don't break down, you stand your ground and you demand that your boundaries are respected. They can be a little persistent, and also good at measuring timing...he might let this die down some and wait it out and catch you off guard once your emotions are not in high gear...they know this game well, they've done it thier whole lives...he might wait six months or six years...stories of them popping up 20 years have been reported. You make a decision today and you stick with it and you do not deviate from you plan once you commit to it. Good luck! Hugs

The ex-Psych professor claimed during the final D&D that I was making unwanted sexual advances on him... he moved one of his classes from one classroom to another. All I had done was declare my love. After the final D&D, after I had met the girlfriend who had moved from LA to be with him, he was *BEGGING* for my home address/phone number for when I moved off-campus. I don't think he did anything when I lived on-campus in the dorms because two professors had on-campus apartments AND there was security. He would've been caught. When I went NC and about a month into the UNM teacher education program, he falsely accused me (I *STILL* suspect it's him) of being "dangerous to children." I was summarily kicked out of the program without so much as a hearing. All I got was a phone call at 8 pm telling me to NOT come back the next day, I was deemed that much a danger.* *I got a tutoring job in another state, had it for over a year. When I had volunteered at a local elementary school, my record was clean.