More confirmation that if you want to get over this look within

So I call the counseling agency for my interview that they need to find a counselor for me. The lady on the phone is a trained counselor mind you this is a 10 minute conversation. She asks me for a brief description of why I need counseling. I tell her. Her response was "Sounds like you are dealing with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and that you may be suffering from some codepenedency issues though there no way of knowing that for sure in the counselor can get more in depth. On the surface that is what is sounds like. It doesnt really matter what he has though. The important thing is that you get to the bottom of why this man continues to pop up in your life and you allow him in. You have to protect yourself from that. Sounds like you may have some issues that need dealing with" I said yes I know thats why Im calling. she said "your half way there then. Go home do something nice for yourself. Love on your family and someone will call you in a day or two."

So then it was off to the bookstore where I went thru some books on PDI. Every single one of them said if you continually go back to one of these relationships or you werent out the door when the first sign of abuse started then you more than like have some issues that need dealing with. All three books said until you own your role in the dynamic you will never heal from it. As much as I hate to admit it BINGO

So all Im sayin here ladies is dont sit here months and months and stick your head in the sand like I did. Hell I didnt even know I was sticking my head in the sand until someone said something on here that put into such a rage I set out to prove them wrong but what happened it I proved them right.

Ladies if you want out of the madness start looking within that is where the answer lies.