Do they learn anything from past mistakes and treat the next one any better? I believe that my exNH has secured new supply and still think that maybe it was just me and that we truly weren't a match for one another. He has patterns that I have seen from his past relationships that he does not see at all but the last blow up we had (25 days NC) he sent me a text saying to me: "You are right. I have a lot of issues that have hurt you and I am going to heal myself so that I do not hurt another girl the way I have hurt you." So will this new girl reap the benefits of a "healed" man/boy while I was the one who reaped the abuse?