The inverted narcissist is more difficult to spot than the classical one. The classic narcissist thrives on praise being heaped on him, and doesn't mind your praise either. He struts, he flexes.
On the other hand, the inverted narcissist can be incredibly kind, humble, self-deprecating. He'll make you feel perfect, like a goddess... until you dare to be honest. Then he'll explode. He'll tell you how to feel, that your suffering is "inappropriate",and thinks he is "teaching you a lesson." He can be an emotional blank... or an emotional vampire. He has a pervasive negativity.
He'll come across as shy,but it's because his negativity drives people away, even his social equals. His cruelty is subtler too.
Anyone experience this type?