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#1 Mar 20 - 6AM
Healingnow
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Is there such a thing as...

Mid life crisis...........

Do you think this is just when the narcissist gets worse as he gets older. Can an ordinary man have mid life crisis or is it just the N & Ps who have brought this to our attention.

So much of my exN behaviour could be put down to this which leads me to make excuses for it and that doesn't help when I have to think that he set me up from the begining.

Mar 21 - 12PM
narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)
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Narcs and Psychopaths

are not capable of having a mid-life crisis IMO..because most of them have no concept of the passage of time. the psychonarc is 60, but in his mind he's still the slick handsome scoundrel of 25, not the alcohol and drug ravaged old relic he really is. i know he'll never have a mid-life crisis, because he will never believe he's at MID LIFE...he thinks he's going to live forever..and has actually said as much.
Mar 20 - 8AM
ForeverLearning
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All types can have a mid life crisis but not everyone does

people who are happy with their lives tend not to have a mid life crisis or not as severe a mid life crisis, as unhappy people do. unhappy people are more desperate for change at any cost I suppose. they are seeking happiness as they realized their own mortality via growing old and a landmork birthday (40, 50, etc). and the midlife thing also has to do with fear of getting old and not having realized one's dreams etc or trying to prove to oneself that you still have all the good stuff you had in your youth, that it hasnt weakened - such as sexual prowess, proving that you still have it, (or trying to develop it if you never had it) since they think 'oh my God, it's now or never, if I ever want to bang that busty blonde down the street I've been oogling for the last 10 years, I better go buy a new red sports car/ chromed out harley motorcycle and studley leather jacket, get some hair plugs for my receding hair line, get one of those penis vacumn pumps I saw advertised on late night t.v. (supposedly helps develop stronger erections), and get a prescription for Viagra" etc because this might be my last 'hurrah' for being a sex machine before the arthritis and alzheimers sets in!
Mar 20 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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mid-life crisis?

Narcs don't have them because they are not human or normal. Normal people SOMETIMES have them but it's not that big a deal ~~~~~~~~~ The world is a dangerous place, not only because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. - Albert Einstein Visit My Info. Website for Abuse Victims
Mar 21 - 2AM (Reply to #3)
rache
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I,had mine at fifty.......................

woke up one morning and realized i spent all my life giving birth and raising kids....................my life had evaporated.........................it was a YIKES moment,but,i got over it.
Mar 21 - 1PM (Reply to #4)
quietude (not verified)
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mid-life crisis

..."But I got over it"...I think that is the way to look at it from a healthy perspective. I feel like I've been going through "F.L.C"...full-life-crisis!..as the child of an N, a string of poor relationships, and then hooking up with an N. I think most people go through some kind of feelings of MLC, but not enough to totally restructure their lives (not in a good way), or hurt those around them while doing so. For N's, S's, P's...I think it's just another EXCUSE for bad behavior. Unfortunately, those who don't know better will enable them by chalking up what they do to MLC.
Mar 21 - 2PM (Reply to #5)
Healingnow
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so it is.....

So basically there is no midlife crisis, just a name used by the general public that is assigned to the narc/psychs acting out around the place and noone wants to think it is that people are just mean and selfish so we try to understand it by saying these people are having a hard time dealing with their feelings so they act out temporarily.