Wants to be friends??

Hi everyone, I haven't been on the forum for a long time. But I did post my story in late July. However, I have been struggling with my relationship with my N for a long time. However, I struggle with no contact, and I fell short a couple times thinking it may be different. Of course its wasn't. But I didn't speak with my N for two months witch felt life forever. However, he just contacted me out of the blue after being out of state for a while. The same pattern. I tried so hard not to let him back in, but with in a week he started his abuse right away. He knows how I feel about him. But what I feel is for the pretend guy, not him. On the other hand, he contacted me and asked to get together and talk. I explained to him I can not loose focus on my life because I have a custody battle along with my mom being in the hospital for open heart surgery. So of course I let him talk me into to speaking with him. Now it was just texting, phone and e-mail. But im still in love with him and he knows it. So what does he do set me up for the kill. He says Lets talk and we can only be successful if he lives by him self and becomes self supporting. Okay why wouldn't I want that right? However, hes never been that way and its been almost a year and a half. So he then starts with I miss you. When will you cook me dinner. Starts to woo me right and I go with it because I love pretend guy. However, he set me up to devalue me and says three hours after he says he misses me. O no we need to be friends because I have to get sober. Wtf he didn't know he was getting sober he stop drinking a month ago. My point is normal people do not do that. He knew he what he was doing. I believe they do. Well I didn't go for his BS and told him to fuck off and never contact me ever again or I will get a restraining order. Its abuse, and as I write this I think im crazy, but that is what they do to us. He's the problem, I mean I found out that he made this big story up about a friend that he got fired from his job. What he meant to say his he ( himself) got fired from his job.It was a big fat lie. The craziness will drive me over the edge if I let it. But I have learned and hopefully im strong enough to stick with it this time is NO CONTACT, NO CONTACT, NO CONTACT. This is the first time I ever dated a N and it has been the most horrible experience in my life. The story go on and on and on of the crazy stuff he would do. Omg! I want him out of my life and I have no idea why I thought it would be different....I think my step mom is a narc. Im not sure. I know my ex mother and law is. She is a whole story with in its self. I hate narcissism and I thinks narc need to be punched in their face... im sorry, just tired of being abused by narcs. thats all...