My ex fits all the criteia for a narcissist to the highest level. I did not realise until I ended it. I did not see the red flags..... two previous wives with court orders against him, 3 kids that hate him and have no contact, no friends and he nearly destroyed me. I thought he loved me and I was different...I done all the things his ex would not do that made him unhappy.
I lost everything to him, money, my home and car. Nearly lost my kids (from a previous relationship) as social services said they would be put on at risk register if I did not end relationship. I met with him again....he loved me, wanted to make amends, he has made a big mistake..... same old thing. I got pregnant. I could not continue relationship or risk losing baby. That's when his full narcissistic vindictiveness really did come into play. He nearly destroyed me emotionally never mind financially. All I wanted was for him to change and be a good dad to our baby.
Instead he met another woman on the internet. Within 6 weeks she moved 100 miles to live with him. Gave up her job and left her grown sons and family behind. He bought a business with the money he conned out of me and took her on board as his assistant. Meanwhile he contacted my job so many times with false allegations that it became too difficult for me to work there. I am now jobless with his child.
This woman has now lived with him for one year and emails abuse to me about how nasty I am not to let him see his son, that I am an unbalanced vicious human being etc etc. She has said he has changed and that it is being with the right woman that has done that. She says she has encouraged him to view things more objectively.
I have told her everything he has done but she says it is history and all she cares about is the man she is with now!!
This really hurts me and I obsess constantly..... every day from morning to night.... about them being happy together. Him being the changed man for her. Can this really be true?