Hi. My N Husband has been (for the last 6-8 months or so) acting almost polar opposite to how he "normally" acts toward me. Usually he was all in my face about anything, where I went, what I did, etc. For the past half year or so, it's been changing and I think that he (as yet) doesn't realize I am on to this different behavior. Now, it's as if he could care less about anything I do. However, his sensitivity is now on overdrive and anything I say/do sets him off to the extreme. I recently found out that he has another mailing address. When he found out I knew, he first went ballistic, then after two days said he "did it for me" because of his poor tax situation. I don't buy it for a minute. He's had a bad tax situation for the LAST 4 YEARS and never was concerned about how it affected me so why would he care now? NO ONE knows about this other address including the IRS. So you tell me why he has this other address? I can only think of one thing... some new source of supply. He is on the road alot (commerical driver) and now he NEVER wants to come back home but he won't come out and admit that or if there is someone else. He makes up all these excuses about why he can't get back home -- work screwed his off time twice, the next time he "forgot" to put in for time off... (yeah, like that's something you would "forget"), etc., etc., etc. Since I think there is something up and he is scheduled to come back home this weekend I am questioning him about all these new "delays" and stalls and coming up with solutions for them so he can get back here. And guess what? He gets so enraged! I think it's because he just wants me to let this go and not question him about why he doesn't want to come back. So why doesn't he just end it with me if there is someone else? I mean, what's he plan to do hang on indefinitely until I end it so I can be "the bad guy"?
You bring up some great questions