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many have advised me to not try and figure out the lies from the truth with the pathological to just move on and stick with the NO CONTACT and I am trying so hard to stick to that advise but as you all know easier said than done. Mine always said he had a girlfriend, and I often wondered just what role she really played in his life, I do know he was very discrete and went to great lengths so she didnt suspect. In the past few months of our contact which was minimal he has been inviting me to stay at his house with his girlfriend that his girlfriend has been wanting to meet me for a wild time, mmmmmmm I find that odd then again maybe the girlfriend and him have a open relationship and they swing who the hell knows. I have also had invitations that my husband and I should go on vacations with them and we could trade partners, maybe all of this is true, and that is what he does with his girlfriend. Maybe its a set up with someone he has lined up but not his actual girlfriend, I wish I knew and then again if I knew would it really matter? I think not because its all so twisted anyway.
I find it interesting in the two some years how it all evolved to this in the end. In the beginning he represented himself to be everything I ever wanted, his relationship with his girlfriend was so-so and bla bla now two years later the girlfriend is still living with him off and on so he says and now he wants the three of us to share his bed, and how his girlfriend would just love me. And the excuses I would hear, cant see you then because Diane will be with me, she's over here alot you know like glue he would say. I have also heard this great line, "If I wasnt in a current relationship I would steal you from your husband in a minute", Now dont despair I havent seen him for over 6 months (so give me a little credit) but I really wonder if the whole girlfriend line is just a set up I think there are lots of Dianes in his life. These people dont have REAL GIRLFRIENDS, OR REAL MARRIAGES, OR REAL ANYTHING, it may appear they do to others but in reality its probably not a girlfriend but more another victim he just strings along and uses. So what is your vote wise ones, is the girlfriend his swinging partner? or is the girlfriend completely fooled and just used as a front? The little pretend wife that cooks for him, escorts him to events, does she sit around and adore him and pray that one day he will marry her? Many of you I am sure have been in that girlfriends shoes, I wonder what the other side is REALLY like? As I said b-4 I have not seen him for 6 months, during that time I have worked on healing myself, trying to get the NO CONTACT established, (I once made it for three weeks), he was not a happy camper either... ) I was sooo brainwashed by this man, my counselor once told me you are in boot camp training, he is training you to behave for him, just as he does his champion dogs and he will reward you with biscuits if you behave yourself. Oh ya mine LOVES HIS DOGS, he claims they are worth about 20K each champion blood line and all, he hunts with them starting oct - deer season these dogs are so trained that when one steps off a matt, they will literally walk backwards when he tells them to get back on the matt, 4 golden retrievers, he walks in the room and they stand at attention. Well enough of dogs, I just have my little sheltie named Herbie who licks me to death. He can say "my feet are cold" and his dogs jump on the bed (when allowed) and sits on them to warm them. mmmmmm now that is some real training. Wonder if he trains his victims like that too... I cant get past how GOOD LOOKING he is, it appears he has it all, wealth, brains, charm, such a devoted son to his mother (puke) HATES his father who has his own place in the basement of his new $$$$$$$ home he built, his father is not well. Says he will have to take care of the "f---ing idot until he dies". Nice son huh? So Daddy lives in the basement while the son has the quarters upstairs with all the live in girlfriends and whatever else he does in his new Italian marble hot-tub, FOUR stall garages, one for his hunting equip, one heated just for his dogs, one for his truck and car and one for his boat, he lives in the lap of luxury with no conscience, and no remorse, never married, no children, never supported a wife or family. He once told me he wishes he could get me pregnant, ha ha I told him now how could you do that when you have been snipped, he didnt like that response because it was the truth. Just what the world needs a millionaire narcissist. The money doesnt impress me much because I came from wealth, but he sure uses it to impress others, that was not how I was raised. I guess my point being in the end we can only take with us what we gave to the world, this man only gives to himself and cons and takes from others and sits back and says, LOOK WHAT I HAVE and in reality he really has nothing but a false life. And just think, the girlfriend could have it all someday,