Did you try to have a friendship with the narc after you broke up?
Did you try to have a friendship with the narc after you broke up?
I have to ask this question, as I wonder if I'm the only one who kept things going with a narc that I was no longer dating! Grrr!
I didn't post an actual story here, in the 'share your story' section, but maybe I should. But suffice to say, I met this man back in the spring of this year. We dated a very very short time...I saw all the warning signs (not of narcissism, as I didn't know much about it then)of a narc...but, stayed in it. He took things way too fast...discussed marriaged...wanted to be exclusive right away...etc. Non stop attention/texting/picture sending, etc. We had a few arguments early on, which also seemed strange that he would get so bent with someone he barely knew. So...I broke it off...then, he begged for me back. I went back, then he broke it off. BUT...we never lost contact. With past relationships, I never kept contact. Just went on our ways.
But, with this guy...he emailed me, called, etc every day for months. We became sort of friends, so I thought. But, as time wore on, there were times when I felt confused, verbally abused, berated, etc. Almost like I was still in the relationsihp with the guy. He would tell me about women he was interested in. It hurt me. I didn't tell him that, though. I tried ending the "friendship" a few times, and he would apologize, and we would resume.
Finally, last week, after two weeks of berating, and insults...and endless chatter about all the women who wanted him...I sent him a goodbye letter. He might have been confused because he was being nice to me, when I sent it. But, that was just part and parcel of the cycle with him. He would sense me pulling away, then he'd pour on the charm. Each and every time, it went like this.
I am just curious if any of you have ever AFTER your romantic relationship ended, if you ''tried'' to remain friends...and if so, how did that work out? Did it seem like just an extension of the relationship, but you were no longer dating? Did he still treat you badly, even though now, you were supposed to be his ''friend?''
I am now NC with this man. Day 6. I know soon I won't be so raw with emotion, as long as I stay NC. I'm learning that from you, here.
Absolutely not!
victimnomore
I tried to be friends with
Deidre
I have read all of your
Define friendship. In my
only one way to go...Forward (tm?)
My EXn
I think the whole point
Fedup
The sad truth
With friends like these
Staying friends
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
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I know what you mean....
Not even sure if we are friends....
I never tried to be
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