Helldwellers Post entitled "I want to share this" Its dead on. It seems alot of people think they dont feel love. I for one do think they feel love to the extent that they can but they have very limited capability.
Another poster here mentioned that the ex-N in her life wouldn't join her for events that were important to HER because, according to him, "I'm not important to you."
The ex-Psych professor used the same da*n words! When I'd ask why he'd leave me hanging at concerts/lectures my junior year (I was also casually dating-and yes,he knew it)... he'd say "I'm not important to you" or snidely "Go be with your friends."
Reminds me of an infant.. a malicious one. An infant can't understand that Mommy and Daddy have a life outside of him because he's IMMATURE.
But I'm talking here about a man who's 15 years my senior(!!!) Babysitting my Dad... *ANALYZE THIS*
My ex N was always talking about the relationship he had (yes in high school)with a mexican/indian girl,he is afro american,how she was the love of his and her mother got a new husband that decided that he and that girrl had to stop seeing each other...and they moved,he never saw her again ...some years ago he heard she was back but married...And this is the story that he keeps coming back too...she was sweet,and no conflicts....He is crazy about the movie Peter Pan,and high school musical....he is always chasing after teachers,and told me when he went to take his daughter to school,when he drove away those school girls that were outside screamed at him...WOW LOOKING GOOD....wtf!!!!!yeah stucked at 15 or so....
One day he was really opening up to me and I asked him if he had ever been in love -- He had often said that he never really loved his ex.
His one "true love" -- his high school girlfriend! Stuck in boyhood!!!
Asked me one time if I regretting ending any of the relationships in my past and then I asked him the same. And he said, yes, one - my girlfriend I had in high school. I asked what happened and he said that he decided to break up with her when he left for college because he didn't want a long distance relationship. He said he regretted that in later years. He sounded so nice and sincere when he told that story.
Then, months later, when he was devaluing me - the truth came out. When they were 19, she missed her period by a week and got scared and thought she was pregnant. He freaked out. After a week, she realized she had made a mistake and read the calendar wrong. "So I dumped the bitch for traumatizing me like that."
Fucker.
There is always different versions to their stories...now i know if he would tell me something i would't even pay attention anymore knowing that all that come from their mouth is bullshit and they are delusional because they really do believe what they are saying.....poor sorry fuckers...
give me everything, unconditionally and don't expect fair treatment..If you can deal with having pint sized love, then staying with a Narc is possible.
Pre-teen and early teenage love? Where there was all that drama and you liked to make eachother cry cause it made you feel like you had "real love" Emotionally these N's got stuck there. They are in a time warp. They got stuck at age 12 or 13
This is how my exN behaved in our relationship - extremely immaturely. So high school! So much drama! And of course he would accuse me of being the "drama queen". Can you say projection?
o.k. so heres a BIG one. When I finally left my NH 3 mths ago he actually said to me that he always knew that his highschool girlfriend was meant to be his wife, that she loved him sooooo much and cried so hard when they broke up and that she treated him so good. WTF!!!!! That is all I can say is WTF?????? Who ISNT crazy or rather wasn't crazy about their highschool sweetheart?? The first one you had sex with??? That is the immature love, and you are right.....he is STUCK THERE!!!!!!!!!!! He even explained to me how she really thought he was something in his highschool basketball days. blah blah blah.. IMMATURE LOVE!!!!!!!!! There is a HUGE difference between highschool and mature love, and 3 kids and braces and mortgages and JOBS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
"I'm not important to you"
high school
Aceonelady
Yes! High school!
Wow! Mine Too
YEP morty
Aceonelady
I do think they believe
I love you if...
sick of it
Girls, allow me to disagree.
They feel ....
Do you remember...
Bingo!
Believe in yourself!
Terri
Oh I agree...
o.k. so heres a BIG one.