Telepathy

I believe in that too. I had a dream about him last night- a weird one at that. Anyway- I started replying to several comments on this site and low and behold-he txts me "how's your summer going". Normally it would cause me some type of irritation but I deleted it and went on about my day. You would think after never getting a reply from me for 6 months, he'd quit by now. I'm sure he has run out of supply or is just plain bored. His last txt was a sad face. Nothing he can txt will ever make me reply to him.

I am going to go out on a limb here but I totally believe this does happen. That is not to say we are not hypnotized, I think it all goes hand in hand. To me the scientific explanations support, not deny, the connection that happens. I believe everything is connected, and after coming through this last N experience I am convinced of this. I have had the experiences described here, have awoken in the middle of the night and have been hit with the "knowing" that he was with someone else. It is much more than intuition. There are so many things to list that cannot be put down to coincidence that I have dismissed coincidence and now take much more notice of little seemingly insignificant things to see where they fit in. My first three weeks of NC were not too bad, apart from the usual mind spin, but I had done some healing to shift the desire to contact him. Any desire that crept in I was able to snuff out rather quickly. At this stage he had sent some cutey emails, tried to call, and was forwarding my mail from our old address. On the fourth week I changed my status on FB to single and dropped all his family and friends off. For the next two weeks I felt like I had been hit between the eyes with a sledge hammer, I felt constantly dizzy and when I tried to sleep I could feel my psyche flinching like someone was striking at me. Firstly he forwarded mail that had been torn open and read, the phone rang all night and I did not answer, and the $10000 he was supposed to send never turned up. After two weeks it all stopped and I have not had a bite since. I also woke up one morning clear headed and knew it was over for the time being. I totally believe that our minds are so focused on them for so long that they do have a psychic hold over us as well. It can be explained in science as cognitive dissonance etc and I do nor dispute any of that. I think 1 occurs because of the other. I think science will get to a place one day where a lot of this stuff will be proven out, and quantum physics supports this in my view. Anyway, this last week I have felt a pressure building and I kind of am on high alert. I will let you know if anything happens...lol. Maybe I am barking mad too....but I don't think so. ;)

I always knew...ALWAYS...when he was lying to me. Even about the smallest, most insignificant things. I knew. I knew when he was in the area. I "felt" his presence. But is is my xN/P who seems to be telepathic with ME. I swear he has my house bugged or something. He always know what I am thinking, doing, meds I am taking, etc., etc. Even after being NC for 11 weeks, he came back (when his life started falling apart) and knew everything about me. Everything. Things no one else knows. It is very, very unnerving. They are dangerous, evil creatures. They should not be permitted to roam freely in our society. Seriously, they are just plain evil. I am seeing a side of him I never saw before. Petrified of being alone and broke. Scared to death of losing all his friends. Getting into therapy because he has hit rock bottom. And he comes crawling back to me because I always accepted him as he was, knowing what he was. He it terrified of being left all alone. But I won't let him suck me back in again. I refuse. Maybe he needs to be alone right now, all alone. But they can never change.

It sure felt something like telepathy. I would say something and the exN would look shocked and exclaim, "I was just gonna ask you about that!!" Some of that is just normal when people live intimately. I think it's worse in relationships with an N. Our interpersonal boundaries that would be there with a healthy lover aren't there. Probably there are NO normal boundaries, so there is a mind meld (ewwww) going on. I've read about emotional vampirism (oh definitely so true) and even "remote attacks" (I don't believe that). I don't think Narcs have some kind of superpower. They just have super, uberly highly honed skills in manipulation, much higher than ours because we are NORMAL. So it seems as though they can read your mind and send you nasties through the mind control. People can get TOO close to each other, I firmly believe that now. Healthy human relationships do not get THAT close. Each person maintains their own healthy boundaries, and realize the other person is a whole individual they can not possibly "know". It's called basic respect :) But while I was with the exN, oh yes, this definitely happened.

I've had that too.... shifts in energy....i can feel energy drain out of our relationship. i wrote him that heartfelt email to part ways the other night, got the two emails from him and I know they will be hateful and make me feel like I never existed in his life anyway. For the past two days I've felt dizzy and sick to my stomach like he is super angry with me....again. I do feel like I can feel his anger.

When I first saw my ex-P and his girlfriend, they acted so coldly with each other one would've assumed they were brother and sister. Somehow I was able to tell that the lady was indeed his fiancee. So, I congratulated my ex-P on his engagement, though there was no logical way I would've known that. It sent my ex-P into a Narc rage, claiming that I was "imposing" on him and being "intrusive." During the D&D, I would repeatedly tell my ex-P that he was angry, and wonder why he was angry... and he'd deny being angry at all. Now I've read that the two primary emotions of Ns/Ps are fear... and anger. After the D&D, I clinically explained to my ex-P the motives for his behavior. I said that he had flaunted his girlfriend to get me angry&jealous, that his actions had been ON PURPOSE to hurt my feelings. That got my ex-P really scared.

Whenever I spoke my mind to the N, I felt good. For about 5 minutes. Then the fear settled in and I would have this questioning, fearful, loop in my head wondering if he will do or say anything now, later, weeks away, etc. There was always a repercussion whenever I wasn't quiet and compliant. Perhaps not feeling right and under attack is an old reaction to him.