In major need of support...

The pictures and comments mean nothing. Mine has so many pictures up with girls and drinking and having fun. His FB status was even "wow life is so awesome now!" I know that is not true. He has no job now, no money, cant pay his bills, is hanging out with high school girls, has a gun, gets in fights, WENT TO PROM, drinks everyday and chews now. Many people have told me that he looks horrible and miserable. I saw him last week and he looked like a skinny mountain man! Trust me it is all part of their false self that they want people to believe. I am sure that it is also for you to see. Mine would leave his FB up on MY computer when we still lived together just so I could see what he was up to. It is sick

I saw pictures posted by the exN's W with posts saying how great everything was - the trip was fantastic, etc. The funny thing is I have texts from that time that he sent me when he was on that trip - "I miss you so much" "You are the only one for me" etc. The calls to me when he got home saying how happy he was the trip was over. The woman is in the dark - and wants to be - how happy would she be if she knew about the texts and the sex he was having with me at the time. The pictures mean nothing - they are all liars living double and triple lives - remember he is empty inside and his life will implode at some point because they are stupid but believe they are incredibly smart - but at some point yours will make the mistake of a lifetime and will get everything that is coming to him. Stay strong and be thankful that piece of sh*t is out of your life and is lying to someone else.

Don't believe the pictures. They're such sad idiots he probably bumped into her and said, "hey lets have a picture together" knowing that he'd put it on facebook so his life looks great. She could well of had a lovely boyfriend out of shot, or he photoshopped him out. Cats meow, dogs bark, narcissists abuse, ALWAYS. His life is crap that's why he's having to pretend it's not by putting this on facebook. If you were really happy, wouldn't you just be getting on with it..... for him he's never happy just spending all his waking time trying to be, and trying to prove to the world everything is great. That's what they do, pretend to themselves that they're just on the cusp of something fantastic, that way they keep away from looking inside which would make them suicidal (don't go there narc at all costs) but it doesn't work because NOTHING for them is fantastic, which is why they have to invent it all and keep convincing just around the corner is fantastic, what a way to live....yuk. Nothing will ever be fantastic though because he's disordered, abusive, can't feel and is a fake.......nice.

Well yes, like he used to. He will do the same what he did with you with every girl. My N took me to the same cities like he took his ex gfs and he was taking his new girls to the cities he used to take me. It is so normal.. But remember this that he will treat her sooner or later the same way like he used to treat you. It doesn't matter if she is pretty or not. Her time will come, unfortunately for her. Maybe try to lie down in the evening and imagine what kind of guy you would like to be with , how would you like this guy to treat you. And maybe try to watch this romantic movies were the man treats woman right. It was helping me in bad moments, because i compered the movie to my reality with N and it looked so bad. This is just an idea. Life is not a movie but we can at least have somebody who respects us and loves us. It is hard what we face. And i will not tell you that you will feel good. I am two weeks NC today and I know good that it is not over , that i can also find myself crying here and asking you guys for help. But i will do everything what i can to stop it. So be strong. Think about what you would like your life look like and try to get it. N is never gonna give it to you. Never!

My narc last summer went off with another girl , i thought i was going to break in two . I had just joined this board and i learnt that he will d&d her the same as he did me .. and sure enough 3 weeks later she was dropped like a hot brick . He then came sniffing at my door again and i stupidly went back for more torture . Because i was quite independent in our relationship (although you would think i was some kind of leach if you listerned to the narc) i knew that he would never handle the attention most girls give in the start of a relationship ..... i knew the texts to him and the wanting attention would be her down fall and i was right .I learnt very early on that he contacted me .. She got in a terrible state , stalking him breaking into his house .. just a terrible state ..poor girl .You feel bad beause you love him and you still believe he is a catch because that is what he has told you to believe .. its brain washing and you will come out of it in time .. big love Scoop x

I am so so sorry for you. That feeling of seeing him with someone else and doing things you used to enjoy together is gut wrenching. I have been through this twice with the same guy....he dumps me and is with someone within a week. I felt like dying. Horrible, nauseating feeling. But....HE DUMPED THEM TOO. It's not about us or the other girls. It's him. He gets bored and finds someone new and exciting, then gets bored and finds someone else and on and on and on. Beautiful, intelligent, successful people get duped by these guys. Sandra Bullock, Tiger Wood's wife, Halle Barry have all had this happen....and it certainly isn't because of anything they are lacking. So please, do not feel ugly or unworthy. This is 100% because of what he is and absolutely NO reflection on you! Hope you find this article helpful: http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2007/11/other-woman-now-hes-happy-with-her.html Keep posting. xoxo

I am sorry that you are feeling bad about yourself...Even if the new woman is physically perfect,he will find something to rubber on her face aboutt herself,and he will go off again to the next one....They get bored ,they are thrillseekers....The Chase is for them what gets them high followed by D&D...And pleas understand that he wants you to feel this,otherwise he would;t be going to FB with pictures of her/them...He is kicking you while you are down...Please,stop looking,don't do this to yourself,he is counting you will,i did the same,and NOW after 2 years i am starting to gain REAL understanding about they operate....And read our stories,you will see they are all sick in their minds.....Is not US is THEM....

Sarah, I am so sorry for you. I know this pain. I was replaced within an instant. It is unbelievable to know that the love you extended meant nothing to them. This is the tough part about acceptance of their disorder. It requires so much mental deprogramming on our part to move on with our lives. And begins with acceptance. This is not about you personally, its not about your looks, your intelligence, your financial status. Narcs are always looking for new supply. Different supply. They have to be fed. They get bored and are in need of new affection. They dont feel or care about us personally but only as objects to be used for their purposes and then tossed when done with us. Just remember it has nothing to do with her looks either. She is just the new supply and soon to be the old supply. She will be hurt and tossed too. Feel sorry for her but be glad hes not using you anymore. You have given enough to him. Time to give something back to yourself. Sending luv....xoxoxo

I completely understand. I remember those early dark days very well. After 21 years of marriage, I was suddenly single and totally devastated. Please know that you won't always feel like you do. Don't try to look too far ahead, just concentrate on the day you are in and know that the future will unfold exactly the way it is supposed to, not necessarily the way we want it to. I was suicidal for a period of time, and thankfully had an amazing family/friends/therapist to help me pull out of the abyss. Surround yourself with loving people and read the "Share Your Story" section on this website. There are so many of us that have been where you are. Let us lift you up when you cannot walk forward on your own. There is comfort in knowing others have made it through hideous experiences like your own and are experiencing joy again. It IS possible.

Dear Sarah, You have my sympathy. This hurts so much it is almost unbearable. He is a sick, disordered, evil being. He is playing out a game and that girl will be replaced someday too. I know this is so hard to believe, but you are better off without him. I am struggling with a really similar situation right now and sometimes have to read someone elses story for me to believe the truth. We are better off without them. It was such a cruel game they played with us. We did love them with all of our hearts. We loved the hikes, the funny conversations, the closeness and fun. To understand that they are now doing it with someone else is shattering. My heart goes out to you, I understand. Peace. J