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#1 Jun 17 - 2PM

more NarcSpeak

Ladies, your feed back on this e-mail from my XN...
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You just don't get it. I am not adverse to you seeing your daughter skate. I am adverse to you not verbally discussing attending with me. I am also adverse to you coming to what has been a haven for me one day a week and putting on the non-verbal charade that you have dished out since Nov 23rd of last year. Why also would I be OK with you making C(daughter)uncomfortable at the rink, by not acknowledging me in front of her instructor? The whole double-talk on your e-mails is just a waste of time for both of us. Call me.
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Because of our daughter, I only communicate through e-mail. I asked if I could watch her skate (per her request)

#2 Jun 17 - 3PM

AnotherPath

M

You just don't get it...................You're so so thick and stupid, I'm so superior. not verbally discussing attending with me..... How dare you make a decision on your own without consulting God..oh I mean ME. coming to what has been a haven for me ... Poor little victim ahhhh non-verbal charade that you have dished out.....You're so abusive PROJECTION.... you making C(daughter)uncomfortable at the rink,.... You're such a BAD mother and selfish, it's all YOUR fault... by not acknowledging me in front of her instructor? .... Don't you know how bloody SPECIAL I am how dare you not even look at me in front of other people your e-mails is just a waste of time for both of us.... My time is just SO important coz I'm THAT special and I can talk for you and TELL you you're emails are a waste of your time. Call me.................... I need validating please respond so I can hoover you, I want you to hear my voice, I need you to play my games...PUKE One things for sure he's so pissed off you've gone NC.........priceless

Ending the dance

#3 Jun 21 - 10PM (Reply to #11)

betty2020

Sums it all up....Yep just

Sums it all up....Yep just another psycho. How we manage to control ourselves from physical injury to them is beyond me. Guess that's why we were picked. I have moments when i read this shit that i go into fantasy land and wonder how great it would feel to go psycho on them. Really wanna throw up a little in my mouth now. xoxoxoxo

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

#4 Jun 19 - 10PM (Reply to #10)

NoNarcingZone

NarcSpeak - Dual Dialogue

AnotherPath hit the nail on the head! Dual mind/mouth dialogue. I read that imagining my N. The words playing in his warped mind, restated in NarcSpeak, pouring out of his lying mouth. They speak a language that only we 'victims' can translate THEN decipher. M- ignoring him (while he's present) cuts to the core. Oh wait...the devil has already emotionally 'gutted' out all Ns. So there is no core. The N was irritated. Keep it up! LMAO

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"Soldier, don't confuse your rank with MY authority!"

#5 Jun 17 - 10PM (Reply to #2)

Thank you

...for making me laugh so hard! Isn't that a classic e-mail! I have a huge file of them to hopefully use for full sole custody...

#6 Jun 19 - 9PM (Reply to #3)

Introspection

That was VERY good Narcspeak translation AnorherPath...

Left nothing out! Nicely done!!!

#7 Jun 21 - 10PM (Reply to #4)

His response--finally by email

I refused to call him. so here's his answer: ************ OK look, for C's sake, and because she invited you, I am cool with you coming to her lesson tomorrow between 6:30 & 7PM. I will then skate alone with her for half an hour like we do every Tuesday after her lesson. You really should have just asked me over the phone about it when it was first brought up by her and I would have said "yes". You must begin talking with me about matters regarding C. Seriously consider what would have been your reaction to me if the roles would have been reversed here. When we see each other tomorrow a "hello" in front of C would go a long way with her. ********* Have fun with this translation!!

#8 Jun 22 - 5AM (Reply to #9)

AnotherPath

He's SO controlling. He's

He's SO controlling. He's like a headmaster telling off a child, pompous idiot. Who gives a dam what he thinks about anything or his opinions the manipulating twit. He needs to feel SO important because he's actually very insignificant. Hope he falls over on the ice for everyone to laugh at.

Ending the dance

#9 Jun 21 - 11PM (Reply to #8)

NoNarcingZone

Simply Put...

...I can't take you not following the instructions/orders I've given you. You're so difficult. So, since you refuse to call, I'm sending yet another email outlining exactly WHEN you're permitted to attend the practice and HOW I expect you to perform once there. Wash. Rinse. Repeat. So tomorrow when you meet your N @ the sandbox, remember HE SAID for you to say "hello" - AND make sure it's said with enthusiasm & a smile, so that it appears natural & genuine, k? Wonder if he wants you to say hello first or will he? Whatta conundrum! Oh M, you poor dear. My child is only 1 - and I pray this isn't a glimpse of what I'll be dealing with. I don't play well with Ns. ----------------------------------------------- "Terror made me cruel." Emily Bronte

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"Soldier, don't confuse your rank with MY authority!"

#10 Jun 21 - 10PM (Reply to #5)

loveofmylife

Wow

I'm pretty sure my N wrote all of these. Exactly the same tone of voice when I caught him in his multiple lies and found out he betrayed me and our relationship. Would love to post them...but they are too horrific for me to want to remember. but the tone and way of talking is identical. I was non functional for days after reading these unable to believe he could actually talk to me like that. And I always responded in a cool, polite tone only to then receive another nasty-gram. So you are doing the right thing, continue to ignore to the extent possible, but since you do have a child, a polite, cool response only when necessary!

#11 Jun 22 - 10PM (Reply to #6)

how it went...

I arrived at 6:25pm. I saw C with her ice skating teacher. A loud, "MOMMY!!!" and C ran over. I smiled at the teacher & fixed my daughter's ponytail. She wanted to show me her new bag. I said I'll wait here while you get it. Her N-Dad started to come over. She grabbed the bag & started to tell me about the light-up wheels,etc. I turned my back to him & focused on her. We watched her from opposite sides of the rink. I smiled at her the whole time. I glimpsed at him-he was either snarling or staring at me. I gave her a big hug at the end & left. I called his cell later to wish her goodnight. Him:"so what did you think of the lesson?" Me:"may I speak to C". Him:"I asked you a question. What did you think of the lesson?" Me: "it was fine. now may I speak to C?" For us with kids, it's tough keeping MC--"minimum contact"

#12 Jun 23 - 3AM (Reply to #7)

AnotherPath

Perfect......

Ending the dance

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