Really need advice!
Really need advice!
I have a situation I really could use some advice on -
My last exchange with N was a text from him telling me that he had used me for a reference. "Hope that was ok. Would love to hear your voice." I called him, we had a stilted conversation, and I told him it was fine. Next day, I emailed him and told him that maybe next time he should use someone else, perhaps someone whom he didn't owe money, and that to have a friendship you need to actually put something into it, etc. We had another brief email exchange following, where he said I couldn't possibly understand how busy he is, I told him I don't like being taken for granted. Blah blah blah. We didn't end on terrible terms, just tense.
Then I found this site, you folks, and put it all together. It's been 2.5 weeks NC and I have been feeling really good.
Here's the dilemma-
Last night I got a call from a number I didn't know. No message, so I checked early this morning. It's from a realtor in his area. I guess he and new supply are buying a house! Or SHE is, probably.
I am certain they will try to call again today. Do I:
- break NC with N and tell him to provide another reference?
- give a lukewarm, vague reference?
- go full tilt and tell the realtor that I wouldn't trust him with my last dime?
- something else?
I don't want to break NC, but I am not comfortable giving a good reference. But last we left it I hadn't told him to stay away, so I am concerned that if I blast him to the realtor there will be nasty repercussions. I'm mostly past the anger and revenge stage, and would prefer it all just be over. Maybe I just don't pick up the realtors' calls?
What do you think?
Since when did realtors need
Excellent point Dee! :)
Journey on...
Only other possibility is he
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Hi NTBD
There are
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You don't owe him squat...not
Hi, my take on this is that
Journey on...
I'm very confused by this
Please read my details -
Needtobedone
Excuse me!! You were offered
woah -
Need, I hear you but don't give up on the site...
Thank you
You sound like you are headed in the right direction!
I was coddled for 5 years
brin, Thank you for validating my point.
we are all sisters here, with
Thanks!
How about all the positive
You know...
And that's your choice!! The
SILENCE IS YOUR
Don't return call
Needtobedone
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If it was me, I wouldn't take