an example of their toxic behaviour

Hi guys,

I have just had a massive reminder of how toxic these narcboys really are! My daughter is 7, and the narc came into our life when she had just turned 4 and in the end she called him dad when we moved in together, however he always knew about her real dad cos he was still in the background and i was still in contact sending photos etc, but due to other circumstances (which is a whole other story) wasnt in contact with my daughter anymore.

Sooo, today i had a conversation with biological dad, havent heard from him since b4 xmas and he was asking how daughter was and then he said that "your ex/bloke emailed me at work just after xmas, asking me if i wanted your new address and phone number"!!!!!! bio dad said he didnt answer as he thought it was a bit weird and has only jus told me cos he didnt know what to make of it (and we dont speak often to be fair).

Now what is more sickening is that this occurred more than 6months after the narc had left me, i dont know how he got his work email let alone any contact at all (hacking email account maybe?!!!) and at that time it was when I had to move out of the house we bought together because i was getting harrassing phone calls, catching his mum n dad driving past the house, etc. It also makes me sick that it is about my daughter, who he didnt even say bye to or even acknowledged her once he left.

I felt sick for a few hours but then i thank the lord that at that time, whilst he was doing all this toxic shit behind my back, that i had already gone total NC, changed my mob number, and was moving into MY own new house! all the while he was APPARENTLY happy with his new fiance! hmmmmm, im sure normal people who r happy dont do this kind of shit!

For ages i thought he was, cos i never had the "traditional hoovers" in that sense. But for all those who may not have had that too and think they r happy, they arent, they r pure toxic, thats all. They have no feelings and they use people and do horrible things. the truth always comes out in the end and I have always tried to just get on with it, do the best for me and my daughter and secretly hope what goes around comes around.

I still feel a bit shaken about it, more cos of the nastiness and apparent effort that would have gone into doin that. But im not gonna let it get to me, having spent the past year trying to rebuild my life, I am not gonna let this get to me. I am due to start a lovely new job soon and things r looking so great. So like all the mods say, NC all the way cos thats the best fuck you we can ever do to them.

Big hugs to everyone.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx