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#1 Feb 27 - 6PM
abusednomore
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freedom!!!!

Hi ladies,

I just wanted to share what has just happened as it just highlights how important this site is for our recovery and how important the friendships are!!!

I have been stupidly spying on my ex and the ow by having a facebook account in my brothers name so i could go on that and check up on their profile pics!!!!!

my beautiful friend who i met off this site rang me tonight and i admitted to her what i was doing and thank god for her, she gave me the strength to deactivate this account and will be there for me if i ever feel weak!!!!! even though i was NC in every other way (changed mobile number, blocked emails, blocked on my account on FB, got rid of any photos, etc) i feel like a massive weight has been lifted, i am totally NC now and no waivering now!!!!!! this is the first day and i feel so much stronger!!!! and not like a fraud anymore! lol!!!!xxxxxx

Feb 27 - 10PM
shock and awe.some (not verified)
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You go girl!

I'm glad you did it. Difficult but you did it. Pulled the IV out of your arm. You are done being a donor!
Feb 27 - 8PM
Sparrow
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Beautiful! Keep up the good

Beautiful! Keep up the good work!
Feb 27 - 8PM
Ophelia
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Congratulations to you both!

Congratulations to you both! Now, let the full detox begin! :-)
Feb 27 - 6PM
Tinker23
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Congrats!!!

That is so awesome :) It is such a great feeling to cut the final tie. So great you have someone you met on here to back you up!
Feb 27 - 6PM
Goldie
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Nice TEamwork!!!

Love this story, and this is how it works. Good job. God bless, Goldie
Feb 27 - 6PM (Reply to #8)
abusednomore
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thankyou Goldie, i will now

thankyou Goldie, i will now be counting the days of NC now i truly am!!!!xxxxxx
Feb 27 - 8PM (Reply to #9)
Maya (not verified)
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Same for me,

I have been hacking into his email and FB account occassionally even though I have not contacted him for 50+ days to check up on him and realized that it is holding me back and getting in the way of my recovery. I am 3 days "sober" now and you are right, it only helps to not go there. STAY STRONG!!!
Feb 27 - 6PM
fallingfoward
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Good......

for you. That is a great choice, chosing yourself over the narc. Keep going stong!!!! Hugs
Feb 27 - 6PM (Reply to #4)
abusednomore
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I really couldnt hav done it

I really couldnt hav done it without her, its so nice to talk to someone who is going through exactly the same and u can open up to about stuff that would be embarrassing to other people! we said tonight its really crap that we had to go through the crap with the narc but i really do believe everything happens for a reason and at certain times in our lives, good or bad.xxxxx
Feb 27 - 6PM (Reply to #5)
Maggster
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And I'm sure you will be

And I'm sure you will be there for her when she needs your advice & support as well. My involvement with my narc caused me to loose so many things, many that can't be re-gained. My life became so insular; I jeopardized many fabulous friendships and relationships because of it. It is refreshing to hear of good news resulting from these sad and horrible stories.
Feb 27 - 6PM (Reply to #6)
abusednomore
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Maggster, find someone on

Maggster, find someone on here who lives close to u. It is so lovely to have this site but to have someone who u can talk to on the phone and meet up with who understands is really good.xxxxxxxxxxx
Feb 27 - 6PM
Maggster
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You have found both a caring

You have found both a caring and smart friend. I'm grateful that Facebook isn't something I am invovlved with nor is my Narc. I retract that statement, at least that I'm aware of!!!!
Feb 27 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
abusednomore
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lol yep maggster, we can

lol yep maggster, we can never be sure of their whereabouts, even in cyberspace! hehe!xxxx