Two Faced!!

typical narcissist. Lies, lies, lies. Anything to make him look good to his minions

Well .. The Shit list that applies to this Assclown is too long to post here.. He is just trying to justify his new playground with a child.. Then there is the person telling you this?? Who would do that? Sorry sweet lady .. Garbage belongs at the curb .. This would include his minions .. You are a classy respectable woman.. A quote from Pee Wee Herman " I know you are but what am I" Just keep being who you are not who others want you to be.. Hunter

Dear newlifeaway, disregard what you have heard. I was told by the exN that all the Gfs before me were liars and unstable bordering on the insane and the exW was frigid/never saw to his needs which I believed at first (the pity party routine they use). Of course, the longer I remained with the exN the more I realised that he must have been lying and when I compared notes with one exGf we'd both been through the same hell and we'd also been the OW to each other - Ns really are scum. The point being the OG will be in hell soon enough and hopefully she too will eventually realise that the OW/W can't possibly be as the N portrays and anyone using 'didn't know how to dress' as complaint is a shallow dick and that should be picked up on immediately. More importantly, it really doesn't matter what anyone thinks/says unless you allow it to matter. Am not sure how you became aware of this information? Remaining NC or limited contact (if you have children together) is vital for recovery as information like this can be deeply unsettling as your post demonstrates. The N can be this mean because he has no ability to feel anything real, he will always believe himself superior to everyone, entitled to do/be as he sees fit - he's disordered and doesn't care about anyone but himself and securing supply to abuse. As awful as it seems it isn't personal - that really helped me. The focus should be on you and you alone now. Keep strong.

Jerk, utterly self focused. Yuck. You deserve better

They always make up shitty things to say. Usually none are true. It's designed to devalue you and build ow up. During the ideal action phase they make all others look terrible and almost put you in completion with them. My ex talked horribly about his child's mother when he is the dead beat. He also made his ex to be a lazy gold digger who used him. I wanted to please him so badly, I was determined to be better than these women. Ha! That's just what he wanted. If only I could be a fly on the wall and hear the things he says about me now to his nw. Barf...