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#1 Dec 13 - 8AM
Redhead
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Remembering

I remember his Brother's birthday a couple of years ago. My BIL & his wife got into a hugh argument at the restaurant. My ex narc was telling his Mom about it as she was working & missed the birthday party. His Mom was disappointed that she missed the fight. I asked my ex narc...who laughs at their child's pain & humiliation? My ex narc replied "it's funny unless it's hapening to you."

Interestingly enough...his Mom refused to go to our wedding, didn't go to bridal shower, didn't attend the funeral of either of my parents. She almost missed my graduation from grad school.

It's interesting that when you get time & space from the situation, you see how you were abused by the whole lot!!

Dec 13 - 1PM
uk lady
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Redhead

Yep, Ns feed off other's unhappiness and pain. And as we well know, don't have an ounce of empathy for anybody. Just be thankful that nowadays you are out of the enmeshment and far away from the entire sorry bunch. Don't you find that your vision sure improves when you take the rose tinted glasses off? Everything becomes much clearer and more in focus. The clarity can be breath taking. Dee x
Dec 13 - 9AM
Hunter
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Sparrow is correct.. This guy

Sparrow is correct.. This guy has mommy issues.. Google mother emeshed men.. Hunter
Dec 13 - 8AM
Sparrow
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Sounds to me like the Mother

Sounds to me like the Mother In-Law is a narc and she raised her children in an unloving, disvunctional environment. Shame on her. Glad you aren't surrounded by such toxic people anymore! :)
Dec 13 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
Redhead
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OMG!!

I googled men enmeshed with mothers. OMG!! I knew something was wrong with her: cold, negative, passive/aggressive. HELL, she's a narcissist too! Such a sad family really. My ex is the oldest child & the only biological one. His Mom & Dad kept bringing home adopted children. Ex-narc & his oldest Sister were used by the Mom to raise the children. Oldest Sister hates mommy dearest, and always calls my ex-narc "the golden child". Ex-narc's Dad is a very weak, spineless man who won't stand up to her. Thank y'all so much for your kind words & insight.
Dec 13 - 11PM (Reply to #4)
Im_always_fine
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I can't believe you've just

I can't believe you've just described my NARCS mother. The most cruel cold blooded woman I've EVER encountered. Coincidentally I've been stewing about this witch all day today...he told me last night that she wants to have a sit down after Christmas.F#@K THAT! After almost 3 years of silence. If it ain't broke don't fix it. She wanted me to apologize for something she pulled out her ass...that never happened. It was simply my turn in the "let's all hate so-and-so game" Everyone in that family gets a turn at being hated by the rest of the family. The hated person then has to apologize to his mother who then imperiously pronounces the scapegoat forgiven...then someone else gets a turn..a family head game(most family's play Pictionary) She didn't know that I couldn't wait for my turn! Because I had no intention of ever sucking up to her. 3 years...no Easters...no Christmas's...just the way I want it. She has one spawn dead from overdose...another's a junkie and disabled from being thrown from a 4rth story window in a drug deal gone wrong...and the parasite/pimp. She's the common denominator. Throw backs everyone of them.
Dec 14 - 8AM (Reply to #5)
Redhead
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I'm Always fine....

OMG - my sick MIL does the same thing to those kids. Everyone of those kids have had their turn as scapegoat, except for my ex-narc. She absolutely hated me from the word go (I won't kiss her ass or play her sick games). Everyone one of those kids (except for my ex-narc) is a high school drop out. All have drug problems & criminal histories, unwanted pregnancies. Good for you - don't you dare play her game...I wished I had stayed away more often. Yes, my ex MIL is also the common denominator. I still blame my FIL to a degree. Grow some balls...and stop bringing home children!!
Dec 13 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
uk lady
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And the fog lifts.....

My ex's mother was a N too. You described her to a T. They raise their sons in their own image and boy do they teach them well. Also, goggle emotional incest. His father didn't stand a chance - it's a case of put up or, shut up. Dee x