Doing what the psychopath does not want you to do: THINK

One of the things that I have been doing a lot of is THINKING. No, not RUMINATING, SPINNING, or OBSESSIVE, just......thinking, thinking things THROUGH, not AROUND. It dawned on me that the psychopath wants you to think cicularly. This helps to keep you in his web. He wants you to STOP thinking. I believe this creates changes in our brains that STOPS the ability to use our God given gifts for intellectual/emotional thought that is not circular, but one in fact that comes to healthy conclusions. Once you are free from the psychopathic hold, and the fog lifts, you begin to THINK again....

With this process, I've learned to understand what ABUSE really is. I knew about emotional abuse PRIOR to my relationship with my psychopath, but I wasn't allowed to THINK about it, only FEEL what was happening to me, as if I was being HIT in the chest. Ever have that feeling when he does or says something hurtful and you get a deep pain in the center of your chest? That's abuse.

Along with abuse, there are DEFINITIONS, that need to be truly integrated and understood. The one I'd like to focus on now, is MANIPULATION. Here is the definition of Psychological MANIPULATION from Wikipedia:

Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or even abusive tactics.[1] By advancing the interests of the manipulator, often at the other's expense, such methods could be considered exploitative, abusive, devious, and deceptive.

Interesting, isn't it? Manipulation is the IDEALIZATION phase. It is another form of LYING. These definitions, for me, were in passing in the past. Sure, I knew what MANIPULATION meant, but now I understand it to mean what the definition truly states when it comes to a disordered one. These definitions and looking them up, help you to THINK and APPLY these definitions, not only to abuse, but also to your situation and disordered one and what he/she has done to you and how he/she did it.

Idealization: MANIPULATION, A LIE

There is NOTHING good about MANIPULATION and it goes to the heart of the idealization phase. It's a definition and "fancy" way of describing what is disguised as good, when in fact, it is enormously deceptive.

I hope this finds you all having a wonderful, DISORDERED FREE day!!

Now go THINK! LOL!

HUGS