I’m still in shock over the discard.

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#1 November 8, 2017 - 3:44pm
Silver1874's picture

I’m still in shock over the discard.

Hi, I’m new to this site as a member but I’ve been reading a lot of the help and advice over the last 8 months. I was with my narcissist for 2.5 years until the physical abuse reached a point that I moved out of our flat we shared (both our names were on the lease), only because he threw out my possessions. He taunted/hit me for 3 hours after I refused to move out to accommodate his parents visiting for a week (I gave in to this twice in the past). He never apologised for his actions or words and even came back to me a few months later picking up like nothing had happened. I can’t believe I didn’t run for the hills but he promised to seek help and then we would go to couples counselling together. 2 weeks after this agreement to work through it he vanished, no texts, nothing. I let myself into our flat 2 months later, we slept together then he verbally abused me again the next day. We agreed to both sever all ties with our flat cause I couldn’t cope with him starting a new relationship in a place we were meant to have a future in. He agreed then did a u-turn and demanded to stay. I managed to get him out of the flat and I then left. The fallout from my actions regarding the flat were horrendous, from abusive texts that I made him look for somewhere else to live to him leaving all the sentimental things I gave to him in a pile on the table the day the keys were handed back. He has never spoken to me again since the day we were last together in the flat. He’s now been in a relationship for at least 7 months although I think it was whilst we were still in contact. How can anyone move on so quickly from a long term relationship and still be in it? I can understand if it was just a fling but this doesn’t compute in my mind. I’ve just started counselling today as I’m struggling with the whole craziness of the relationship, the future promises and the ‘I’ll be the one to make your dreams come true’. It absolutely destroys me to think of him with this new girl, going through all the wonderful intimate moments we used to share when I’m left to go through the pain.

November 8, 2017 - 5:31pm
Russell1331's picture

Same amazement