I just came on to read for a little bit of comfort, as I am obsessing constantly. Ive blocked and gone no contact even stopped the visitation with him seeing our babies until I can get a proper court arrangement in place as it was impossible to communicate what was the best interest for our children, and seeing him for handovers was impossible with him bringing his new victim to my house, or being verbally abusive and it was distressing me which is no good for my babies.
However Im obsessing... I'm constantly thinking about what he's doing, whats he's gonna do next (as got really nasty about the contact stopping through emails, which I have now set up a new email account) Im constantly feeling like I'm going to see him, my stomach in knots when just walking to the local supermarket, Ive been dreading leaving the house incase I see him or his car or him and her.. I keep thinking has he changed for her I know its crazy thinking but he has been completely different with this one then all the others he's been with in the last 4 years since we been split up, i know he has just upped his game with this one as he has lots of previous ex's who will all be feeling like me too. but its like I've finally got him out of my life right now and I'm still letting all this consume me and its driving me mad...
any tips? i just feel like he's took over my brain!! Ive also started therapy too which has been good, we talked about how i had given him all my power for the last 9 years even though we been split up for nearly 5 I've still been playing the silly games day in day out!!