"Eroticized rage" or "sexualized anger"
"Eroticized rage" or "sexualized anger"
If you are still struggling with understanding the bizarre sexual relationship you had with the N, please Google "eroticized rage" and "sexualized anger".
I found this article incredibly enlightening, and I have recommended Patrick Carnes book "The Betrayal Bond" here in previous posts.
http://www.counselormagazine.com/feature-articles-mainmenu-63/60-sex-add...
There is a reason sex with an N is so "different". Read this and please, if you have ever felt even a twinge of "jealousy" towards an OW, understand that she truly is an object to the N. Just as you were. It's really not about sex, and certainly not about love or intimacy...it's about rage and anger. And on some level we all know that already...that's what brought us here.
Wishing peace and healing for all of us.
Can barely type . . .
penny
Thank you for sharing, Empath
Awesome insight
wow.. thank you for this post
freaked