Match.com

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#1 Aug 10 - 12PM

Marie

Match.com

I have to bring this up as a warning to anyone or those you know looking on an internet service for your dream partner. Mine I learned is on Match.com can't imagine his profile honestly haven't looked. I pretty much know what it will say. Romantic, easy going guy looking for the love of his life, his Yoko. (he's a big Beatles fan) He's very smart and witty but has nothing to show for it. He will fail to mention his addiction to porn, chasing every skirt that passes his way, being out of work for almost 10 yrs, addiction to pain meds, and his huge debt.

He bounces from being happy go lucky, to moody and raging at the drop of a dime. Makes loads of promises and paints the most beautiful images of vacations together you will never take. Your life will seem a dream at first only to turn to a black abyss when he drops you from his life. He will always play all his sympathy cards that everyone dumps on him, he's expected to do everything for everyone, everything is a misunderstanding on your part... his deck is huge.

A year ago I would be sitting here with this knowledge thinking what did I do to him. Why did he go on this site? Was I not good enough for him? How did I chase him away? But I know different. I did nothing, I simply got sick of the charade I was living and confronted him with his lies. That's when he pulled the D&D. It was still painful even though I wanted the relationship to end. At one point I even wanted him back but luckily at that point he was on to his next prey and treating me like crap. All I feel is sorrow for whomever is unlucky enough to get involved with him. He is filled with so much rage right now. But instead of fixing himself or the problems in his life he goes on his search for a new victim.

I'm sure there are those that find love on these sites but I fear more are like him so I would be really cautious.

#2 Aug 11 - 1AM

James (not verified)

Good blog site

I met James on a personals site in November, 2005, in person in January, 2006 and now hauntingly, I even remember saying to him back in the beginning that I didn't understand how any woman could ever walk away from his loving kindness. Good blog site about meeting "James" online and what happen to her. Yes members these people love dating sites.

#3 Aug 10 - 7PM

neveragain

I Just Officially Canceled My Subscription

Thanks Marie. I knew I would never go back on that site again. I will NEVER do online dating again. That's not where I met my ex-N but when I did try and do the dating thing again, I tried Match.com. What a joke! I met so many damaged and warped men. It was scary, really. The last one and the final reason that I hid my profile told me he was a widower. We were out to dinner one night and a woman walked up and said, "So-and-So, what happened to you?" He said, "Excuse me?" and she said, "You were at my house, said you were going home to take a shower and now you're out to dinner with HER?" (pointing at me.) Turns out, that woman was on Match too and emailed me. He's not a widower, not an airline pilot, doesn't own a boat or any property. He lied about having a dead wife!!! I called him immediately and told him that although he's a great guy (gag me with a spoon), that I really wasn't feeling all that I should be to continue our relationship. The NEXT THING I KNOW, he put his profile back on Match with his marital status as.......SINGLE. Anyway, it doesn't matter anymore. I will never, ever go on an online dating sight again. I think it's a false way of meeting real people. There's an authenticity chip missing from the entire process. I believe in intuition (guess it wasn't plugged in when I met my ex-N in person) and you can't really get a true reading on someone who invents themselves on a Profile Page. It's like dating someones MySpace Page or their Facebook Page not a real person. Okay, I'm off my soap box now. It just isn't something I want to waste my time on anymore. Too much work for too little return. neveragain

#4 Aug 11 - 12AM (Reply to #12)

Marie

Unbelievable Neveragain!

Who knows who this joker really is. Good thing you found him out from the start. Not that you can't be lied to in person, I just imagine it makes it easier for these slimeballs on here. They can also hit a bigger audience than just one on one at a bar which I'm sure also gives them an ego boost. Though I have heard complaints from guys that the really pretty women on their are just ringers to get guys to sign up. So I think overall it's not a good place to meet someone for anyone. I would just be skeptical about going on there.

#5 Aug 10 - 9PM (Reply to #10)

lisasingsfree (not verified)

Aaagh!

I met my present N on match.com 5 years ago. I will stay away from internet sites from now on!!!

#6 Aug 10 - 9PM (Reply to #11)

tina

Wow!

I have never been interested in dating online but I will tell you, it is huge with women I work with. So scary. One girl at work joined this online dating service called "Its just Lunch" or "Just for Lunch" (Cinti OH) and she said it is full of creeps that just want to have sex. My luck I'd end up with a serial killer.

#7 Aug 10 - 8PM (Reply to #2)

Nicole

hope this makes you laugh

Ladies, You made me laugh with this one. My ex Narc, brace yourselves, is the general counsel for the company that runs Match.com, and in my last months with him, began to oversee Match.com. Get this, he actually tried to convince me that in order for him to really get to know the business, and to be successful, he had to create a profile and interact with women online. Can you even believe it? Even the very successful ones can be slimy creeps. I suppose this gives away his identity somewhat, but I don't care. I also found an email he sent to his dad asking for photos of just himself. Unbelievable. He knew I had a million pictures of him. How come he just didn't ask me for one? My guess is he didn't want me to know what he was using it for. When I confronted him, I got the usual, "Nicole, if you had more confidence, none of this would bother you. You'd understand that this is for my career." Yeah, right. Having been way too close to the product through him, I agree that the dating sites are bad news and the success stories I'm convinced are the exception to the rule.

#8 Aug 11 - 1AM (Reply to #8)

James (not verified)

OMG

You made me laugh with this one. My ex Narc, brace yourselves, is the general counsel for the company that runs Match.com, and in my last months with him, began to oversee Match.com. Nicole, that is way too strange!! No wonder they are being brought back into court again. Match.com has to be the worst, well maybe not. Heard a lot of horror stories about POF (Plenty of Fish). Thanks

#9 Aug 11 - 2PM (Reply to #9)

GhostBuster

OMG Indeed

I met BOTH of my ex Ns on Match. Hello??? You'd think I would have learned from the first one. But I thought it was just an anomoly. Nope! These sites are no good. So much deception, as James noted. Looking back, my Ns were nothing like they said in their profiles. It's the perfect trolling ground for an N, sociopath of psychopath. Beware! One crazy Match story, not N related. A couple years ago when I signed up for Match again after N #1, I did the obligatory phone chat before meeting a guy I was somewhat interested in. Within the first couple minutes of conversation, he tells me that he has big feet--and "you know what that means." (Ugh!) Then he went on to tell me that his father recently passed away at 80 years old. After offering a sincere "i'm sorry to hear that" he proceeds to tell me very flippantly that his mom found his dad naked in his recliner, apparently died mid masturbation. At 80! Anyway, I got off the phone and never talked to the guy again. But at least I know he wasn't an N--this guy was low on charm and certainly wasn't trying to impress me! :)

#10 Aug 11 - 1AM (Reply to #7)

Marie

Nicole

Yes, this did make me laugh. A Narc leading the Narcs. They should just call it Narc.com My N loved to use that line too about me not having confidence. I always had self esteem issues when it came to him chatting up other women. There's a BIG difference with talking to someone as a friend and flirting with them with the intention to woo. The last straw was a woman's house I went to with him. She was the wife of a friend they were having a lot of marital problems. His kid plays with hers so there is the excuse why he is there. When we were leaving she asked him him if he'd be round later. It was the way she asked him and the way she looked at him that told the whole story. I'd have to be a total idiot not to tell something was going on with them. Had nothing to do with self esteem or confidence and everything to do with not being a door mat. Thanks for the laugh : )

#11 Aug 10 - 9PM (Reply to #4)

Lisa E. Scott

Nicole

Wow, that is scary. He is the general counsel for the company that runs Match.com? The irony kills me!

#12 Aug 10 - 9PM (Reply to #5)

Nicole

Lisa

Yup, and stands by the product 110%!! Like he said, "it's full of smart, professional, beautiful people who just don't have time to meet someone." God forbid I said anything negative about it.

#13 Aug 11 - 1AM (Reply to #6)

Marie

HA!

Professional? Ha! My N hasn't worked in over 8 years now. He's quite content living off of disability and whoever else he can sucker. He's constantly looking for a law suit of some kind. Chances are my N is on there because he's gone through all the women in our area and needs to expand.

#14 Aug 10 - 8PM (Reply to #3)

quietude (not verified)

nicole

Wow, that's quite a story. That's the ultimate 'has to do it for work research' excuse. What a creep. He's running a breeding ground for psycho's...takes one to know one!

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