"Sick" Victims

Yes! You hit the nail on the head! It's all about 1. money; 2. convenient sex; and, 3. domestic/secretarial services. This is what they are seeking. My N begged me not to leave him. The day before I moved out to a girlfriend's house, he asked me to still see him, date, & try to work it out. I agreed. Yes. I had dreams that maybe we could work our marriage out. But, I would later learn. He left that conversation to go on a date with a women he just met. The day after I left, he had her over to our house for a romantic dinner & a seduction. When I went to the house the day after this dinner, he was ENRAGED at me for what I did to him & then I thought I could come & talk to him. (He didn't mention that he had a new fish on the line who [he believed] had more money than I by virtue of her profession.) Made clear that I could not come to the house, I co-owned, without permission, & he changed the locks. Fast forward. When he learned that the bank would not refinance the house to buy me out--he tried to convince NW to buy in. She refused. He sought reconciliation with me for 10 days. I have tons of e-mails. On the 10th day his parents gave him the money. He sent an e-mail that since I did not want reconciliation, we need a divorce ASAP so he can "recover" from my cruel abandonment. Also, said that he would be financed by a bank. Sat on my money for some 10 months so as to earn interest in the bank. Every once in awhile a reconciliation e-mail. I would learn later that he sent these everytime he & NW had a fight & she was leaving him. Four months after I left him, I was permitted to remove my possessions. Because of all his machinations of cancelling my moves to exert control, I was not out before this NW moved into the house. He never told me there was a NW & he tried to hide from me that she lived there--really creepy. So I acted that I did not notice all the women's clothes in my former closets, etc. Well, at the same time, I again received reconcilation e-mails. I was thrunderstruck. Yaybe they were just "roommates" because he cannot live alone. His office (which is 25% of the house was locked, maybe there was a bed in there?). I said no. Never asked about the woman. I would later learn that after she moved in she told him that she would not be investing in the house or buying any fixtures like washing machines, or counter tops for the kitchen. (So back to cash cow, me.) TEN months after I left him, one month before our divorce, he called me seeking reconciliation. Weeping. He loved me. I could come back & take my palce as if nothing ever happened. No questions. (He really said that.) I said, no. At the same time, a woman contacted me. THE NW! She had just left him & took out an RO against him. I learned that they had been engaged to be married! One month later, he & I were divorced. He looked great in court. Two weeks after the divorce, I happened to be seated two seats away from him at a concert! He was with yet another NW! I acted as if I didn't know him. Him too. One month earlier weeping voice mails about his love for me & asking me out. And then, no recognition of me & he scrunched past me in the row to claim his seat several times. In less than one year, my N suffered the cruel devastation of my abandonment. Met a NW. Got engaged. Moved in. Broke up. RO. And yet a NW. And, also, was trying to work out a reconcilation with me. Reconciliation with me was primarily motived by financials & also the manipulation factor. And, I am better looking & more refined than the woman who replaced me. In fact, they had a huge argument once because he even told her that she could not compare to me. But, she stayed on. If you have a true N or personality disordered person on your hands, YOU have no idea how much they lie. The lay-upon-layer of deceit. Even close friends thought he was devastated by my leaving. Even when he was with NW he was weeping about his depression about my abandonment. & some of these people saw him with NW but thought they were "just friends." It is unbelievable how a psychopath can play everybody as marionettes on strings. It is horrifying. Once one understands the truth . . . running away is the only option.