That's it! Maybe I'm tired, I can't think clearly anymore about this. lol
You are right...he could be thinking he's losing his hold over me (he lost it a while ago) or that I've moved on. I was a very good source of supply, at one point. I would always build him up...he would say...''you make me feel wanted.'' As our friendship waned, I wasn't as forthcoming with compliments. He started saying I love you, like a month ago...which was really really weird. I never said it back. I didn't believe he loved me, I believe he only said that to keep me interested. Even though we were ''only'' friends...I believe deep down, he thought I was still into him.
I need to put my story on here, but in a nutshell, we ended the romantic side of things a while ago, he and I were basically ''friends'' now, but in some senses, it seemed like our relationship never ended. He would talk to me at times, like a gf. ''I went out with a girl last night, D...but, she'll never measure up to you.'' (yet, I wasn't good enough to continue with?) lol
Mind games galore!
Over time...like especially the last two months--he started berating me. Constant pot shots, jabs at my character. Jabs at how I look. (He used to tell me I'm beautiful lol) Jabs at my career. He basically wanted me to believe I was beneath him, and needed him.
That's the gist. I could no longer have someone like him in my life. I also felt God wanted him out of my life.
Thanks so very much for these words today. You made everything much clearer. :=) {{hugs}} here's 2 a narc free new year.
oh...how do we block someone on yahoo? i have never done that before.
Yep, these constant mind games sure take their toll. You are only 2 weeks out. This brainwashing takes a good while to work its way out of your system. No wonder you are feeling tired and can't think clearly. I struggled getting out of bed each day when I was only 2 weeks out.
I didn't realise you weren't romantic any more, although it doesn't seem to make any difference, the impact on us is still the same :( and you are probably right, the fact that you went from being romantic to just friendship was probably a huge dent to his ego and even more reason to step up the anti and try and get you back in his bed?
If I were you I'd stop trying to make any sense out of the situation. Nothing makes any sense with them, that's why we all land up here in the first place grrrr
The further into NC you get, the clearer your head will get. I don't have yahoo myself but I've just googled it and am adding a link below :)
http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/mail/yahoomail/chat/chat-15.html
Should auld acquaintance be forgot, And never brought to mind? Should auld acquaintance be forgot, And auld lang syne?
A huge YES to that :)
All the best deidre, a fab New Year is hopefully in store for us all xxx
desparathousewife!
Yep, these constant mind