Having NO empathy is the true hallmark of a Narc
Having NO empathy is the true hallmark of a Narc
I wrote in early last month to try to gain some perspective on NPD and determine whether the 52 yr old man I was having a LDR with was narcissistic. Thanks to many of you for helping me see that he was (or at least had more narcissistic traits than I was willing to put up with). On August 15, I discontinued all contact with him and fought my pangs of wanting to see him, of longing to hear his voice. I have had no contact whatsoever since that time.
Then last week my ex-husband's 25 yr old daughter committed suicide. The loss of a child has got to be the worst thing a parent can bear. This past weekend (two days before her memorial service) I broke down and sent my ex-Narc friend an email asking for his help and comfort during this painful time. I have heard NOTHING from him, not even a "I am sorry for your loss. Take care."
I had only been dating him for 5 months and never had an opportunity to see firsthand his complete and utter lack of empathy. But this is a perfect example of it and from everything I've read about NPD, lack of empathy, of being unable to feel for someone else, is the true hallmark of this disorder.
I am not ashamed that I contacted him. Now I know for sure what he is: One of the walking dead. I feel only pity for him and for all the empty, emotionless narcissists who are unable to feel anything because they loathe themselves and envy those who are feeling and alive.
Thanks for letting me share. To loosely quote Maya Anjelou: When someone tells you what they are, believe them.
I am so sorry...
To Imabloke
Sorry for your
When someone tells you what they are, believe them.
having no empathy
Jaycee
Thank you Jaycee. I think
My heart goes out to you and
Thanks.
devoid
Devoid of compassion
My heart is breaking for you...
With the angels now
AND...
Yep he is that...
Your right!!
Almostlydia's comment
So very sorry. Losing a
almostlydia
Thank you for understanding.
Katmass, good for your perspective
True companionship and giving
katmass
Oh dear God what a sicko!
katmass
katmass
Thank you.
Katmass,
Faith
One of my a-ha moments was
Meadowbrook
Your story told it all...