Radioactive

Sometimes I like to look at the bigger picture - I visualise a world where all victims of abuse (whatever kind) find ways to recover, fulfil their own potential and become all that they are capable of. This would not only make the world a better place to be but leave the abusers, the cheaters and the disordered no other choices but to finally face themselves or to self-destruct. Some PD's do go on to recover - DBT has been shown to help borderline PD's to live more fulfilled lives - but the PD has to stick with it by choice and it is a long long road to recovery, usually management of the PD. I do believe that medication can help in some cases, especially the more fearful and anxious disorders. By commiting to our own recovery and learning how to set boundaries with difficult people and the PD's we come across, I believe we are actually helping them in the long run. It's another way of looking at it. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran "That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4

So very true. I believe it is the depth of our compassion and empathy for the cause of the PD's pain that perhaps plays a part in us hanging around them too long or even getting involved in the first place. In hindsight there were red flags in all of my PD relationships but I chose to ignore them because my compassion for them won out. I am learning to trust my gut now and toughen up too - unhealthy is unhealthy no matter what was the root cause. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran "That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4