What do we really miss?
What do we really miss?
I was reading one of Sandra Brown's articles on her website, and came across this exercise. I think it's a great idea, and I'm definitely going to do this...
Women often think that since they ‘miss the good times of the relationship’ they must miss him. What women actually often are missing is the ‘feelings’ that were generated in the relationship when it was good. Women miss feeling of being ‘in love’ or ‘attached’ or ‘wanted and desired’ or ’safe and secure.’ When women can separate out what they really ‘miss’ they often can see that ‘he’ represented those feelings she was having. She misses the feelings of the illusion of being in a good relationship. Missing ‘him’ might not really be ‘missing him.’ Who is ‘him’ – the dangerous man/cheater/liar/or pathological? You miss that ‘him’? No. You miss the feelings of being in love.
Tell yourself — “What I am missing are the ‘feelings’ of being in a good relationship.†Remind yourself of that when you misinterpret those feelings as meaning you ‘want him back.’ Often that isn’t the case. Recognize that this very ‘feeling’ thing is what propels women right back out there seeking to ‘feel loved’ again and attach to those missing feelings. It places women very ‘at-risk’ of repeating the same mistake.
Here—try this. Draw a line down the middle of the page. On one side, list the feelings you miss having. On the other side, list the dangerous man traits/behaviors/incidents.
Now take a look. Which do you really miss?.
The article can be found here:
http://saferelationshipsmagazine.com/category/sandra-says/sandra%E2%80%9...
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I miss...
I miss. . .
haha! That's funny
I miss.....the time I got a
I was reminded last night
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Thanks, Lisa. She is doing
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I miss....
CREEPS
That is horrible
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"dont let yesterday take up too much of today"
Thank you Rainbow1.
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As for me....
Here's What I Miss...
This is what I'm missing.....
I miss that i no longer have
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hahaha!
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"dont let yesterday take up too much of today"
double ha!ha!
I really miss the police.
LOL
We could call them for ya!
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Too Effing Funny!
I really miss
Nevergoback
missing them
midding
I miss
Now tell us whats on the
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I miss
I miss
What did I miss???