Learning to Focus on Me

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#1 Nov 12 - 9AM
BrokenBlonde
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Learning to Focus on Me

I work at the same place where I met my exN. Up until last fall, he worked in the same department as me. The OW works at the same company -- thankfully, a large company -- but enough that I see her.

I came back on this forum this weekend because I needed help in finally disconnecting from him and focusing on me. It's been too long.

The trouble is when I'm here at work, all I can think about is what are they doing? I know they are on vacation together right now and it's killing me. How did you ladies stop thinking about them? Any tips? Last night I went out with a friend to a cooking class, followed by drinks and just tried to keep myself busy. But sometimes at work things can get slow and my mind starts to wander. It's like an obession and it drives me nuts that I can just say "screw them, I need to focus on me and I'm better than all of this...I deserve better."

I know that part I'm holding on because I fear letting go and want validation from him -- which will never happen. I just want to wake up one day and not have him be one of the first things to pop into my mind.

Nov 12 - 11PM
thebigpayback
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it ain't easy, it sucks, it

Nov 12 - 9PM
BrokenBlonde
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Thank you..

Nov 12 - 10PM (Reply to #30)
ItsFinallytime
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Love this,BB. Love it There's

Nov 13 - 3PM (Reply to #31)
BrokenBlonde
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Struggling

Nov 13 - 7PM (Reply to #32)
ItsFinallytime
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It's ok. You're grieving all

Nov 13 - 8PM (Reply to #33)
BrokenBlonde
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IFT...

Nov 12 - 5PM
Janie53
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BB

Nov 12 - 4PM
Emerald11
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I have definitely been there,

Nov 12 - 4PM (Reply to #27)
Journey
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That is because you can't see

Journey on...

Nov 12 - 2PM
Journey
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Recovery is a process. You

Journey on...

Nov 12 - 11AM
Done sourcing
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You need to put new

Nov 12 - 11AM (Reply to #22)
BrokenBlonde
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DS, thanks. It's funny you

Nov 12 - 6PM (Reply to #24)
libre2013
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All I can say is that I have

Nov 12 - 12PM (Reply to #23)
Done sourcing
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If it helps, this is the

Nov 12 - 10AM
Hunter
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Going out with friends

Nov 12 - 11AM (Reply to #11)
BrokenBlonde
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I know going out with friends

Nov 12 - 11AM (Reply to #13)
Done sourcing
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BrokenBlonde, You said, "...

Nov 13 - 9AM (Reply to #14)
BrokenBlonde
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This morning...

Nov 13 - 10AM (Reply to #15)
Done sourcing
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Dear Misery, Today when I

Nov 13 - 11AM (Reply to #17)
BrokenBlonde
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Dear Misery, I woke up today

Nov 14 - 12PM (Reply to #20)
BrokenBlonde
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Another letter to Misery...

Nov 13 - 12PM (Reply to #18)
Done sourcing
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You get a gold star! Great

Nov 13 - 1PM (Reply to #19)
BrokenBlonde
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Thanks, DS. Though I'm not

Nov 13 - 10AM (Reply to #16)
Janie53
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ds

Nov 12 - 11AM (Reply to #12)
Hunter
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Then let you words match your

Nov 12 - 10AM
Janie53
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BB

Nov 12 - 10AM
FreeMe
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Good Morning BB

Nov 12 - 11AM (Reply to #8)
BrokenBlonde
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FreeMe

Nov 12 - 9AM
boomer14
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look forward to it...

Nov 12 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
BrokenBlonde
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I can't wait for that day...