Xnh sent me an email after the final D&D that said:
I have done a lot of thinking and I can NOT tell you I don't love you.."
I'm not sure it would be possible for xnh to use more "double negatives" in one sentence. To this day, I don't know what he was saying. lol.
If mixed messages were an art form, narcs would be masters in the medium. Word salad is definitely their forte.
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
"there is a possibility of true soul recognition between us"
"you are making me doubt you"
"my ex-girlfriend was the one who turned heads. you are not like her, you are smart."
ME i am discusing something with him,as most normal couples do, trying to explain my perspective, HIM, all i want is peace and quite, ME, that is all i want too...............DUH......
I remember the first time he nearly knocked my socks off...
Everything was perfect (early stage)...about two months in our relationship he makes a comment one night when I was
about to leave a community class he was teaching...
"I love you honey, wish you would take better care of yourself"...
I was instantly confused...it just came out of nowhere.
I commented back...well I guess if I had health insurance I could go to the Doctor, but I'm eating healthy and exercising 5 times a week. I feel like I am taking care of myself dear but thanks for the concern.
He replies...no, you should wear more makeup and dress better when coming to my meetings...then he snickers as if it's a joke. Totally out of his character (or the person I thought he was). Of course he calls and says, "I'm sorry if you let your feelings get hurt." "I'll just shut-up and let you dress like you want to from now on"...trying to get me to feel like it's all my fault that my feelings were hurt and I had no right to be upset.
A**hole.
This was a minor red flag I ignored...they kept popping up all the time after. Guess I just couldn't comprehend how someone could be so uncaring in what they say to others. Guess what...if you are a Narc you CAN be so very uncaring!
"I'm sorry if you let your feelings get hurt."
Wow! Classic, it's your fault. Oh, it's not that he said anything hurtful. It's that you let it hurt you. One of the things that still irritates the crap out of me is the blaming everything on me.
Me: We're fighting all the time
N: I'm not the one who's fighting.
And then the mixed message that would send me spinning.
N: You are really good at what you do (we worked together)
Me: Thanks
And then 10 minutes later
Me: Hey I figured this problem out
N: Wow, you actually got one!
It's been 9 months and I'm still extricating myself from the abuse that I took for far too long,
The mixed messages will drive one crazy. Mine would go through a litany of how unhappy he was with with me: Starved for affection, communication, contact, blah, blah, blah. I was crazy & stupid. He wanted a divorce every month. When I said, fine, ok. NO! NO! NO! You make me happier than any woman has in my life.
Or, the zinger that finished it for me: "I was never sexually or emotionally connected to you. I married you because I thought my love would transform you as [ex-girlfriend's name] love transformed me." Now, ladies, how can a person love when they they feel no sexual or emotional connection? Duh! When I told him that he'd have to explain this -- he went BALLISTIC!!! Threw himself on the floor in a tantrum. But he never ever backed off the formulation.
Insanity. The man was/is insane. And he's a tenured university professor. They say Hitler threw himself on the floor & threw tantrums when the war started going badly. But these people go in public & everybody thinks they are the cat's meow. Unbelievable. It's brainwashing. I don't know how I lasted so long -- 2 1/2 years. Ugh!!
I know your waiting on me to change but I'm not.
After he dumps me an hour later he texts..."I hate you for breaking my heart and not making this work"...umm shouldn't I be the one texting that!
You went through my shit and called my OW " I'm slicker than the average guy hahaha" And I guess to him he was cause she believed every word HE said. Sure I'm the crazy one.
"You really need to decide if you want to be with someone like me"
Me: what's someone like you.
Him: I'm being sarcastic.
I'm a terrible person- OMG...this was the truth
You're just using me for sex and everyone thinks you're innocent but you're not. PROJECTION
"bitch" 60 seconds later after ive gotten angry "did I say that?"
We would get along better if you loved me more.
Every girlfriend has accused me of cheating.
Here's a good one : "I love
Xnh sent me an email after
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
mystwoman.... maybe the same narc ??? hahah....DINKS !
haha
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