All About Him Forum

Telling your story can be healing and validating, for you and for others. This is the place to do just that.

Having difficulty with NC

I have tried everything. I can honestly say I have given it my all. My best. We have been to two marriage counselors, both of whom I still see. He quit, of course. Six days ago, I went NC but I had a counseling appointment on two nights ago. I asked the marriage counselor to reach out to him to see if he would show up. He never responded. I went to the first marriage counselor on my lunch break to prepare for what I might face if he did show up. We made a plan and I felt good about it. We talked about the potential outcomes and I knew if he showed up, Plan A was in effect.

Springtime Wednesday Evening Support Group for You

Springtime is upon us. A great time for rebirth and renewal To shed the old; let in the new growth. I have received countless emails begging me to run another Support Group for the Springtime. I have facilitated Support Groups for recovery/healing from a Narcissist and learning to love yourself again and get back on track for 5 years and took a vacation for several months while pursing some more educational goals.

The Devalue and the Discard

Can i have some examples of different ways then can discard you..?
I am realising its not just leaving and going to find new supply... mine never went to new supply towards the end... i have a feeling he did in the early days when he worked... he is retired now... i do have strong feelings that he got new supply when he worked and i was at home..
But can i have some examples of other ways they can discard you please?
Thanks

When is it my turn?

I've gone NC for 15 almost 16 months. I find that I still think of him and the mean things that he did to me in our time together. I don't miss him anymore. I do miss what positives he brought to my life but even then, his family that I used to think was so wonderful was really passive aggressive to me. The problem is that I think, still , that I did something to generate that and perhaps I did. While dogs drag their people down the street to say hello to me people are more hesitant w me so maybe some of it is me. However, I need to put that on the back burner right now.