All About Him Forum

Dear Goldie-

Many tell me in early recovery they feel guilt and shame- Guilt says I did something wrong, but shame says I am something wrong. Why do we feel shame after a narcissist?

I've never heard of this type of narcissist until I googled about issues I am having with my spouse. He has many traits that lead me to believe he is a VEN.
- plays the victim (blamed his ex wife for the divorce, portrayed her as Satan)
- claimed to always be broke when we dated, due to his outrageous child support
- had an affair (texted his HS sweetheart several weeks after our wedding, which evolved into sexting, but they never had physical contact because she wouldn't meet up with him)

Hi...I'm new. I posted my whole true story earlier under the newcomers conversation. But right now....I need help. I haven't responded to my narc in 17 days. Now he is in Orinda visiting his parents and sending me messages accusing me of calling his mother to tell her that he is a drug addict! I would never do something like that and he knows it. He's lying .....probably to get a reaction from me. He knows how much I love his mother....and she and I are very close. Its been very hard for me to not contact her either.

We met 17 years ago and I was married and he had been in a 13 year relationship but admitted he had cheated in her several times. Boy was I stupid! We moved in together straight away and he asked me to marry him 9 months later. I thought I was the luckiest woman alive. We had to wait until my XH would grant me a divorce but the ink was barely dry in fact 4 months and we got married. Now I can see it was all part of the control element and that he wanted no one else to have me.

Will The Narcissist Treat The Other Woman Better Than He Treated Me?

Hi everyone, I have'nt posted for a long time, although I do read on here occasionally.
After reading here today, I felt I'd like to say something in the hope it might help others to believe there is hope and life after the narc.
I have been off of the roller coaster experience with my ex narc (aka the toad) for about 3 years now, and life is great! It has been very much an uphill battle, but worth it in EVERY way.

I introduced myself on the "Share Your story" forum, but got no replies either because people are-understandably- too busy with their own issues or because they cannot relate to my story as it does not involve a romantic relationship with someone with narcissism, but rather a friendship. Yesterday I complained to my non N husband about my N (friend) the minister and he said, "I wonder whether instead of N he could have autism-or what used to be called Aspergers--on the autism spectrum? I understand about being on the autism spectrum because my son has it-high functioning autism.

I am 21 years old and I am in a relationship with what I think. Well I know to believe is a narcissist. He is 27 years old and I was only just turned 19 when I got with him and I have a 9 month old daughter with this man. Things have been hell since I'd say around a month after getting with this man? He uses drugs (cocaine) is very addicted to it and is also violent. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I'm lost.

I emailed a letter last week to the Narc..And he emails back nasty letters to me which I didn't reply..Then as I open my emails this morning one form him saying

Anyway dawn I just want to say goodbye,wish you all the best, u deserve the best, take care!

What is he trying to do ..