All About Him Forum

I am new to this and need some serious advice because I feel like I am completely losing my mind.

Reading Janet's post about the socks made me laugh! Let's post the strange gifts we received from them:

mine once gave me an outfit i already owned and had worn 3 times already in front of him. he kept saying "it looks like you!" yeah...that's because there is one just like it hanging in my closet!

a horrible christmas tree pin that looked like something an 80 year old woman would wear. so not me!

mixed bouquets even though i told him maybe a hundred times i didn't like them.

I thought i would start a thread where we can list the werst things the narc said to us . The benifits i think would be to have these psycopaths exposed in one place where if we have a weak moment and want to break no contact we can refer to it so we can remind ourselves what these men really are .. they are all the same ...
Mine is when i found out my mum was dieing he dumperd me the same day a week later i broke no contact to ask him why he did it and he said "well Scoop what if your mums health got really bad ..i would never be able to get out then "

firstly, my anti anxiety meds i just got this week seem to be helping beautifully, preventing me from having crying spells at work. yay!

I am now entering my second month since the big family breakup. I am still worried for my daughter and grandson. What is most incredible is that people are beginning to listen or notice the behaviors of my son in law. They are starting to post notes about how remarkable he is to the sociopath/psychopath I am feeling excited that at least my closest family members and friends are beginning to understand the constant barrage of "me this, and I dido's" and so on from him, from that to constant lies, switching his stories missing key elements, but most of all noticing that he contradicts himself, that all that stuff along with emotional abandonment and targeting the issues most vulnerable to us were the ones that gave him his greatest pleasure, and my greatest crazy feeling days.

Does a narcissist leave a relationship when he begins to feel vulnerable, or when he knows you're beginning to see him for who he is? Is he afraid to show weakness? I guess I continue to struggle, realizing how complicated a narcissist can be. Just wondering if anyone experienced this.

Hope everyone is well.

Do looks matter to an N? I am just curious because I think my N has definitely dated less attractive women..and is it all about feeding their ego? If there is a less attractive women giving them admiration, adoration and is passive, will an N prey on her like anyone else?

Also, my N always mentioned how ugly my Ex's were...he would always comment, but in reality I think he was less attractive, is that an N characteristic?

I Slept with my NH after 4 months of NC.

You are going to love this story...classic N and what a slap in my face!!! So we wound up talking and he came over after not seeing each other for 4 months and we slept together. My stomach was in knots prior, during, and after. It was so unbelievably UNEMOTIONAL on his part--porn sex. Our divorce will not be final for 8 more months and he has been living it up. Traveling everywhere and going on boats, to Europe, tanning, at the gym...you name it. He told me "I haven't grieved over you. I think of you a lot but you know we have different personalities." Just no emotion. When he saw my apartment he said, "Wow. I'm so proud of you." His wife leaves him and he's "proud" of her!