The Younger The Berry The Sweater The Juice For A Narcissist?

This one left me thinking for a while. If they tend to be chasing after younger ones, I'd say they are lazy narcs. Younger women are more naive so to speak... easier to manipulate and don't really have first hand experience of what normal relationships should be like. If they chase older women, I'd say it's either mommy issues or the challenge. Maybe he bailed on you because you're too much of a challenge for him? He is young...narc or not... he hasn't refined his ways yet.

Actually....I'm older then Mr. N. I agree with everyone else...it isn't necessarily the age of the victim as much as the challange.

It's not so much an "age" thing as much as "some" N's prefer to chase after any woman deemed a "challenge" and it varies from N to N.........some of them chase after married women, or lesbians.....this fact is highly documented....

When I first met the ex-Psych prof,he was 32 and I was 18... by the final D&D I was 22 and he was 36. He DID see me as a challenge as a virgin. He'd compare me to Sofia Tolstoy, who was 18 when she married the 34 year old famous writer Leo. The fact that our relationship never got romantic/physical makes me the One That Got Away. He already rationalized my rejection in his head. Both Leo Tolstoy&Arthur Schopenhauer, his idols, were rejected by younger women. Leo Tolstoy wanted to marry his considerably younger ward;she found him too controlling&rejected him, inspiring his short story "Family Happiness." Schopenhauer was infamous for his womanizing... so it was a blow to his ego when a teenaged girl rejected him when he was in his 40s. We can't always say "Ns/Ps can't conceive of their own rejection." The ex-P identified with Tolstoy&Schopenhauer. The ex-P ended up D&Ding me for a woman 5 years his junior (he was 37 when he married her-she was 32) Some of my classmates thought his girlfriend was a lesbian (another challenge) But, as a complement, most of my classmates assumed the ex-P was gay anyhow. Except very much in the closet.

I do think there's something to be said about N's going after young girls (they are more inexperienced, vulnerable, etc) but how old is this N you speak of now? It could be in this case that he is younger than you are and will naturally be attracted to people his age or a few years younger than he is.

to shift the focus off of him and onto you and why you think you NEED this so much in your life. From your posts, he's pretty much told you he's done. I hope you will be done, too. It is not good for you to be so twisted up about a 21 year old. Also, I actually think it's not too big of a stretch for a 21 year old to date a 17 year old (now 18). That's somewhat normal. When I was 17 my boyfriend (whom I later married) was 22. You're 28 and you have a whole world of men to choose from. Who cares about this young dude...he sounds immature anyhow. You can do better. Please try to shift the focus off of him and onto you. Most sincerely, (not) spinning. IT'S A CHOICE. I REFUSE TO SPIN FOR ANY MAN; FOR ANYONE EVER AGAIN!

Your correct about challenge. Remember deep down they are really very insecure so virgins present the least threat since they have no sexual experience. Elvis, as great of a guy as he was, was narcissistic and was obsessed with virgins. He also had a madonna/whore complex. The married or "complicated" thing is just pure ego building and challenge. Its their drug. They do and say whatever it takes to get what they want so if a bigger lie is required so be it. If he didn't say sweet things to you, he just thought they weren't required. Wait until he gets what he wants from the 17 yo. She'll be D&D in a Manhattan minute.