You CAN and WILL heal.
You CAN and WILL heal.
I can't express enough to everyone, especially the new members of this forum, that you can and will heal eventually. I remember all too well, the pain that you are enduring. It is like no pain you have ever experienced in your life, nor will you ever experience again. I remember all too well, where you are right now. It wasn't that long ago that I myself was there. I honestly didn't know if I was strong enough to get through this, as I am sure you are questioning your own strenth as well. This is a dark, lonely place for you to be right now, that is understandable. You begin to wuestion everything and everyone in your life. Why don't you matter? Why doesn't anyone care? Why did this have to happen to me? What have I done to deserve this? Why can't he see me for the beautiful, loving, caring person that I am? He will never be loved the way I love him........
Please, please know that you are not alone, you are valued, you are loved. This is something that you will eventually come to learn, come to know, and most of all, come to believe. But it takes time, a long time, and a lot of work. That is why we are all here, to help one another. This is a safe haven for you to come to, where people have been through or are going through exactly what you have or are. This forum, along with therapy, will help you to heal.
Make no mistake about it, you have been violated. And you need to heal. But in order to do that, you need to honestly understand what has happened to you. This person, the narc, did not fall in love with you, he does not view you as the end of all, he does not see you as "the one he can't live without", he see's this in no one. And this is what you need to realize. He is nothing but a predator. Someone who sought you out, to benefit from and eventually destroy. I just asked a member if she would love her rapist. The answer would of course be "no". Well, he is your rapist. He raped your soul and left you for dead. And once you see him for what he truly is, you will be more than anxious to begin to truly want to heal. To get yourself out of the "rut" that you are in and move steadfastly forward in your healing and leave this monster disguised as a human being behind you.
Concentrate on WHAT he is, not who you think he is. Because who you think he is, is a figment of your imagination and WHAT he is is real. And always, always remember this............
He is WORTHLESS and you are WORTH IT!
Much love to all of you today and every day!
Thank you
Thanks for this post :)
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There is light at the end of the tunnel
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