YES, they hoover this time of year; what is the BIG surprise?

YES, they hoover this time of year; what is the BIG surprise? And clearly from what we have been reading on here lately, SO DO WE.

I notice that many seem SURPRISED the Narcs hoovered them during the Holiday Season. WHY the big surprise? This is what they do, this has been posted about many times.

Narc recycle OLD SUPPLY. It is a no brainer, tried and true supply is easier to suck in than even NS, and it is especially easy to secure when you act so surprised to hear from them.

They KNOW you are going to be surprised and HAPPY to hear from them during the HS. This is WHY they do it, because it works; it is effective AND with the Narc it is all about control and getting what they want and if they want a HIT and you fall for it, well, there you go. They were successful.

Doesn't mean they LOVE you now, does not mean they have changed, does not mean they are NOT going to dump you AGAIN as soon as they are done with you.

It is a game and they LOVE to know that OS is still is stuck on them. Sometimes they contact you JUST to see if you still want them or are still angry with them or whatever. Supply is supply, whether it is positive or negative, SO, it you engage, you are still giving them supply.

ALSO ......... this is a common time of year for YOU to break NC as well because your sentiment and your mind often will play tricks on you, this time of year, FOOL you into thinking that they will never hurt you during Christmas.

GUESS WHAT, they don't give a flying hoot, what time of year it is, they are NOT sentimental at all, THEY only USE sentiment to SUCK YOU in because YOU are sentimental; not them.

They are quite good at using YOUR weaknesses against you. They find out what makes you tick, what your fears are, what your needs are, and what makes you weak.

Like, YOU, trying to be good and do the RIGHT thing. Heck, they don't care, what the right thing is or whether you are good or not, ONLY if you give them what they want because of it.

So, they PRETEND to CARE about what is right or good and USE YOUR desire to be this way against you in order to suck you back in.

Real simple as far as they are concerned. They get it just fine and dandy, it is YOU who struggles with understanding this game; NOT THEM.

Give yourself the PRESENT of acceptance, awareness, and take off the rose colored glasses this Christmas and smell the coffee and realize that they PLAYING YOU against YOU.

They can see the confusion inside of you and the struggle for your to understand and if anything, it amuses them and shows them they they STILL can control and manipulate you.

Being GOOD, just, kind, loving, giving, and the rest of it, is great, just NOT so great when YOU are giving these parts of you to a conman.

Save yourself for someone who can see your goodness and treasures and appreciates it, NOT someone who wants to suck you dry and use the best you have to give and leaves you on the side of the road in a heap.

PROTECT YOURSELF. Protect your heart and soul and STOP turning it over to the grim reaper. Save it for yourself, your loved one's, and eventually someone who treats your like the empath you are.

THE BEST present you can give yourself this Christmas is YOU BACK in the drivers seat, with the disordered one OUT OF YOUR LIFE, once and for all.

http://www.lisaescott.com/2011/08/15/beware-nark-attack

http://www.lisaescott.com/2011/12/28/hoover-not-compliment

http://www.lisaescott.com/2011/12/23/time-self-forgiveness-and-setting-n...

God bless,
Goldie