Would it have any effect to expose them to themselves?

They seem to get worse when they see/know/feel that they have an intense affect on you. They thrive off of that attention. It's better to just ignore him. Don't give him any power or position by replying to his email. I bet even if you replied briefly and kindly, he would still somehow turn the conversation in a bad way. You don't need that. Ignore him!

Yup. Does no good. I did not fully understand NPD during the D&D but afterwards I told her she was an N. Actually ran down the list with her. Arrogant? Check. Grandiose sense of self? Check. No empathy? Check. And so on. She said I was being mean and was a horrible boyfriend. Then proceeded to blame everything on me. Any criticism headed her way, even when delivered in a gentle way, was met with absolute rage. So, they can't take criticism (they are perfect after all). They do not change. They are not introspective. They look outward and blame anything wrong in their world on someone else. And that someone else was us, until we left and someone took our place and would soon be the recipient of their craziness. Just thinking about how much negativity used to come my way on a daily basis is mind boggling. The drama. The anger. The meanness. No thanks.

Exposing him is a waste of time. And it wouldn't make a difference to him, only to you. And that difference is, he would torture you more than you could ever imagine. You have no idea. Take it from someone who did. And trust me when I tell you........ Play with fire, you get burned. Walk away, work on you, put the N behind you.

Even after telling him I knew what he was he still tried to Hoover. Lol. Further confirms his pathology. Exposure will not stop the beast!!!! They're always on the prowl!

Oh yeah...I did all that before I begin to research and discovered that all and any supply is good supply. Pouring my heart out, expressing how hurt I was and angry meant nothing to him. He would respond with I don't care what you think, I'm over you, or simply telling me that I'm crazy and to fuck off. He was probably on the other end laughing. There was one time that he texted me pretending to be the new girl and I told 'her' how he was a junkie who uses women and that she's stupid for wanting him. He texted me a couple days later saying that he'd read everything and wished me death because I was so dirty and wrong for saying those things about him. That said, I think that bothered him. He knew then that I was completely onto him and that had a REAL woman contacted me I would spill the beans. Either way, it was better for him. Gave him reasons to keep anyone far and clear from me and it's going to help him improve his game. There's no winning with these bastards.....the only way to one up them is to never engage, do not respond or acknowledge them ever again. Live a good life, exercise, look great, and take care of yourself. His victory is knowing he really did break you and his abuse still bothers you. Oh and lookonthesunnyside, an N does not think he has a problem. They are in some serious denial. They know they're different but they actually think its to their advantage. You cannot hurt him. Go NC and he will always know you're the one that doesn't give a fuck, you discovered his little secret. Trust me, others most often just think they're jerks never a personality disorder. You WON!

I have no idea what it did to him I do not care But he has stayed away THANK GOODNESS NC NC NC EVER again. And that was my goal

during the r/s and after.....I gave him information printed from the internet. I highlighted parts, read it aloud, left it on the nightstand, therapist mentioned it to him.....what he heard was "I love you so much, you are amazing, you are wonderful and a such great catch" He also said the therapist must have received her degree online...(hello, freak you never made it past 10th grade so how dare you cut her down....jerk) and what he read within all my highlights was "this does not describe me, this more describes YOU. Moving, you might want to seek professional help for all these problems" Then he went out for the night (all night) becasue I was just too "emotionally sick" to be around, let alone look at. UGH! Projection, maybe?

You will get the silent treatment.. You are looking for closure.. Honey.. I'm here to tell you ,you're going to get it.. Did you get Lisa's book , are you doing the work?? Moving past this requires work., Lisa's step do work!! Hunter

do any good because they have NO sense of self,they are empty shells inside. I mentioned to exnarc about his mother and her parenting and to look at his childhood, all he did was rage at me and call me every name in the book. they will not, NEVER, look within themselves, save your breathe,.........