Words of a Narcissist...

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#1 Jun 28 - 2PM
rhiannon
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Words of a Narcissist...

I was going through my inbox today and came across some lengthy emails my "ex-but we're still together N" had forwarded to me years ago. They were email exchanges between him and his former girlfriend... if only I had had the knowledge to identify all the red flags in them. Now I'm the one getting this treatment. Thought I'd share the excerpts that I wish I would have paid more attention to...

1) "Hope you learned you lost the best thing you ever had going for yourself. ME."

2) "So laugh all you want, but at the end of the day you know all this was your fault."

3) "You're a sad person to think about. All the best to you, thanks for using me. You did a good job at it, and I didn't see it coming all those years."

4) "You only put up with sh- that you brought on yourself."

5) "You disrespected yourself by being insecure and not confident, not me."

6) "I did give you the most important thing ever, me and my life for the last year we were together."

7) "My love for you was there, you just chose to not see it."

8) "I am a great person. I know I am and everyone around me knows it also."

9) "You don't deserve me."

Jun 28 - 5PM
Steph
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#3 and #5 - total

#3 and #5 - total projection! lol
Jun 28 - 4PM
Scoop
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These could all come out of

These could all come out of my narcs mouth .. they ARE all the same !
Jun 28 - 2PM
Susan32
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Wow... my ex-P didn't even do THAT...

My ex-P was so disconnected from his emotions he didn't even fake them. He couldn't have gone as far to say I was undeserving of his love, but he did accuse me of having a low opinion of him, of disrespecting him, etc. Instead of a snide "thanks for using me" he BEGGED me to use him. Really. I find it ironic (in retrospect) that he was apparently trash-talking about me to his fellow professors... and yet I got good grades, and 99% of my professors respected me. As one of my college friends told me at the time "The other teachers don't like the way he is treating you."
Jun 28 - 2PM
PumpKyn80
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Number 5

My ExN told me something similar to number 5. Calling me insecure when it was him playing mind games.
Jun 28 - 2PM
NinjaGirl
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Number 8

Literally made me LOL. Who're you trying to prove that to, buckaroo? Sounds like you're trying to prove it to yourself.
Jun 28 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
Happy1
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Insecure

Geesh! Did these guys all take a class together? How to be verbally abusive? The insecurity one is a big one my N throws in my face all the time. He has made me very insecure now and says it to me constantly and says I'm a child. Oh! and if I try to stand up for myself a big saying was: 'I'm not your puppet on strings' and 'I will not let anyone treat me like sh*t' and 'You treat me like sh&t'. So many endearments. ha!