Wondering if I will always be addicted
Wondering if I will always be addicted
Hi all,
A lot of time has passed (more than 2 years) since my relationship ended with my toxic man. Although it didn't really 'end' there as he did the push and pull dance with me for a long time after.
I'm feeling a lot clearer, most of the fog has lifted, and now I know who he is for what he is, and I've even got a new healthy relationship that is making me very happy. I really am doing ok.
But, it's like a part of me is still with him. And I don't mean that romantically - I mean I literally still feel invisibly connected to him. It's the craziest thing. I'm a smart woman and yet I see pictures of him and his OW and it looks wrong to me, like I still feel like he's cheating on me and we haven't been together for years. I know I feel robbed out of the future I thought we were going to/supposed to have and maybe that's why I can't let go. So much build up and no follow through, empty promises.
I think I still think about him all the time and miss him and I still feel this intense gravitational pull towards him.
Every time he re-surfaces which is very sporadic now, it still has the power to stop me in my tracks. It's like he has this hold on me that goes so deep. And I can't resist it even though I know better.
Am I always going to feel connected to him like this? We were together a long time (7 years, maybe 2 years good, 5 more of D&D) so maybe this is normal to still be feeling this way? Am I just so emotionally damaged that it will still take longer to get to the stage of indifference?
I'm so strong in all my other areas of life but with him I feel so weak.
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