Do they all do this? Did anyone here have great sex with the N on a regular basis?
The withholding was one of the main issues that really pissed me off. Of course it didn't start out that way. In the beginning it was full on, passionate and she appeared to have a high sex drive then it became less frequent. We broke up for about 3 months then got back together, that's when the withholding began, it just didn't happen and I always felt like I couldn't initiate it. She came up with some pretty lousy excuses (I'm a girl by the way, it was a same sex "relationship"):
1. She was tired.
2. Her dog was "clingy" and suffered with "separation anxiety" therefore she couldn't not be in the same room as the dog and it had to be with us all the time. It even slept in the same bed. I suspect she used the dog to prevent sex from happening as it would get jealous and bark if we began making out. (however in the beginning she had no problem leaving the dog in another room for a while!)
3. She had "intimacy issues". Apparently the sex would feel different with me, more "loving and personal" and therefore she wasn't used to it.
However there were times when she would tease while we were making out, lead me up to a certain point and then withhold and blame it on the dog! She would also tell me how some of her past relationships were "all about the sex", this would make me feel insecure and inferior to her exes. We broke up again but remained "friends" and occasionally she would still try and frustrate me sexually, she even told me that she liked to "wind me up". In the end I told her that she must not be attracted to me in that way, she didn't disagree. Fair enough if she didn't find me sexually attractive but the teasing got on my nerves. I've heard it's a common tactic with N's but I found it confusing as I thought sex would be great supply for them?
Anyone else have a similar experience?